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phunktastic · 11-08-2003, 07:55 AM

Hopefully I don't make this too long

Theres a girl at work that I've taken a liking to latley. She's "had a crush" on me for awhile apparently.. according to other people who talk to me about it and joke around about it around us. She flirts with me a lot and talks to me, and I ended up getting her phone number, but heres the problem.. she never calls back!

Twice now she's had to go and said "hey I'll call you tomorrow sometime" and then just never called back. It doesn't make sense because when I see her she seems to like me, but why wouldn't she call back then?

I don't want to seem obsessed and start calling her all time time saying "why didn't you call me?!" Some of my friends suggested not calling for a while to give her a taste of her own medicine, but I'm not sure if thats a good idea, she might lose interest.

Anyway, we don't work together any more so the only way I'll see her until next spring is to go on a date with her. From what I've thought about and advice my friends have given me, I've got three options.. Call today (last time I called was Wednesday when she said she'd call me back) and see if she wants to watch the lunar eclipse with me,, wait for a week or two and then try calling and see if she wants to do something, that way I won't seem desperate. Or just don't call back, if she's interested she'll eventually call me back, or I can wait till the spring and try to start over again.

I just thought I'd get a second (or I guess 10th,11th,12th, etc... lol) opinion on the matter from the people here who have helped me out before.

btw, if you remember my thread about high school junior college freshman, this is the same girl.. I just couldn't help it!

sillygirl · 11-08-2003, 09:22 AM

Don't call. If she was really interested in you, she WOULD call back. High school girls are stupid (yes, I admit that I was one a few years back) and play stupid games. It's not worth your time, and she's probably got someone else at the high school she's crushing on. Might be weighing the decision between you and him. Who knows? But one thing's for sure... if she wanted to call you, she'd call when she says she will, or apologize for forgetting when she CALLS LATER. Forget about her.

Amano · 11-08-2003, 09:51 AM

I definitely agree with sillygirl. She's done it twice to you now, and if you call, even in a week, that'll appear desparate.

Harshaw · 11-08-2003, 11:36 AM

Yeah, don't call.
Sometimes it is the only way to get a girls attention.

phunktastic · 11-08-2003, 11:40 AM

Well, I mean I don't want to just ignore her and drop the whole thing. My whole goal here is to go on a date with her and then hopefully keep going on dates with her. How long would you guys suggest I wait till I try calling again?

I get out of school for the winter next friday, so I was thinking maybe I should wait until then, then call her and see if she wants to go do something in celebration of that. Or well at least that would be my excuse to ask her to go do something.

motdakasha · 11-08-2003, 12:39 PM

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Originally posted by phunktastic
Well, I mean I don't want to just ignore her and drop the whole thing. My whole goal here is to go on a date with her and then hopefully keep going on dates with her. How long would you guys suggest I wait till I try calling again?

I get out of school for the winter next friday, so I was thinking maybe I should wait until then, then call her and see if she wants to go do something in celebration of that. Or well at least that would be my excuse to ask her to go do something.

sounds like a good plan to me

Plan9Senior · 11-08-2003, 12:41 PM

http://www.tfproject.org/tfp/showthr...threadid=31052

spived2 · 11-08-2003, 12:54 PM

Just ask her out man, what do you got to lose? I'm sure you were going to do it anyways even if we said you shouldn't. I say go for it, you only live once and maybe she had a good reason not to call back. Or a bad one. Either way give it a shot.

gabshu · 11-08-2003, 01:54 PM

She might be playing games with you. I would ask her out and if she doesn't go out with you or call back after that, then screw it, there are other fishies in the sea.

Well, let us know what happened either way, if I'm not mistaken the eclipse is tonight (saturday nov 8).

skysooner · 11-08-2003, 02:06 PM

Yeah, ask her out, and if she gives you the same old song and dance, dump her. If she doesn't then that is okay. There are many girls who won't play games, so it isn't worth it to go out with the girls who do. I put up with that bs in high school, and I stopped putting up with it in college.

phunktastic · 11-08-2003, 02:10 PM

Its too late to ask about watching the eclipse tonight like I'd hoped, but I am going to try calling next week and asking her to go out on the weekend. I'll let you guys know how it goes,, hopefully there will be good news

sillygirl · 11-08-2003, 02:34 PM

Just make sure that you ask her out when you call BEFORE she gets a chance to say, "Gotta run! Can I call you back later?"

And if she doesn't respond in an interested manner, or pulls the "Well, let me see and call you back..." then dump her. She isn't worth the shit you're gonna end up going through if you stick around. You deserve better, friend!

Buk · 11-08-2003, 03:46 PM

Just remember that no matter how many stories of high school sweethearts or whatever you hear, 99.99% of all relationships while you are in highschool never amount to anything. Don't torture yourself over whatever happens and just continue living your life regardless...

tecoyah · 11-08-2003, 04:08 PM

Just ask yourself this.....would you enjoy a REAL relationship with someone who would treat you like that, or would you rather just get naked. If the later, who cares if she calls back.

hy_ · 11-08-2003, 09:44 PM

sillygirl is so right on this one, get another one, if she really liked you, she would of called you back the first time,

bermuDa · 11-09-2003, 02:14 AM

sorry to say but i agree with sillygirl. You should give it some time (more than just a week) before you try again.

i know that post was pretty pointless, but I just had to mention that Buk's avatar is fuckin hilarious

vveronica · 11-09-2003, 08:08 AM

I agree with the three call limit... You try three times and no responce then move on she is playing a game... A lot of girls that age like to have a backup plan,,, for guys it would be like having a second car. one you dont use that often but if your main car/boyfriend breaksdown/dumps you, then she has you to fall back on and not be alone.

11-08-2003, 07:55 AM	#1 (permalink)
phunktastic Insane Location: Dayton, Ohio	girl advice Hopefully I don't make this too long Theres a girl at work that I've taken a liking to latley. She's "had a crush" on me for awhile apparently.. according to other people who talk to me about it and joke around about it around us. She flirts with me a lot and talks to me, and I ended up getting her phone number, but heres the problem.. she never calls back! Twice now she's had to go and said "hey I'll call you tomorrow sometime" and then just never called back. It doesn't make sense because when I see her she seems to like me, but why wouldn't she call back then? I don't want to seem obsessed and start calling her all time time saying "why didn't you call me?!" Some of my friends suggested not calling for a while to give her a taste of her own medicine, but I'm not sure if thats a good idea, she might lose interest. Anyway, we don't work together any more so the only way I'll see her until next spring is to go on a date with her. From what I've thought about and advice my friends have given me, I've got three options.. Call today (last time I called was Wednesday when she said she'd call me back) and see if she wants to watch the lunar eclipse with me,, wait for a week or two and then try calling and see if she wants to do something, that way I won't seem desperate. Or just don't call back, if she's interested she'll eventually call me back, or I can wait till the spring and try to start over again. I just thought I'd get a second (or I guess 10th,11th,12th, etc... lol) opinion on the matter from the people here who have helped me out before. btw, if you remember my thread about high school junior college freshman, this is the same girl.. I just couldn't help it! __________________ "Relax, the world will spin beside itself and suck you in. With threats and hopes beyond compare"

11-08-2003, 09:22 AM	#2 (permalink)
sillygirl Newlywed Location: at home	Don't call. If she was really interested in you, she WOULD call back. High school girls are stupid (yes, I admit that I was one a few years back) and play stupid games. It's not worth your time, and she's probably got someone else at the high school she's crushing on. Might be weighing the decision between you and him. Who knows? But one thing's for sure... if she wanted to call you, she'd call when she says she will, or apologize for forgetting when she CALLS LATER. Forget about her. __________________ Anyone can be passionate, but it takes real lovers to be silly-Rose Franken ....absence makes me miss him more...

11-08-2003, 11:36 AM	#4 (permalink)
Harshaw Is mad at you. Location: Bored in Sacramento	Yeah, don't call. Sometimes it is the only way to get a girls attention. __________________ This too shall pass.

11-08-2003, 11:40 AM	#5 (permalink)
phunktastic Insane Location: Dayton, Ohio	Well, I mean I don't want to just ignore her and drop the whole thing. My whole goal here is to go on a date with her and then hopefully keep going on dates with her. How long would you guys suggest I wait till I try calling again? I get out of school for the winter next friday, so I was thinking maybe I should wait until then, then call her and see if she wants to go do something in celebration of that. Or well at least that would be my excuse to ask her to go do something. __________________ "Relax, the world will spin beside itself and suck you in. With threats and hopes beyond compare"

11-08-2003, 12:54 PM	#8 (permalink)
spived2 Desert Rat Location: Arizona	Just ask her out man, what do you got to lose? I'm sure you were going to do it anyways even if we said you shouldn't. I say go for it, you only live once and maybe she had a good reason not to call back. Or a bad one. Either way give it a shot. __________________ "This visage, no mere veneer of vanity, is it vestige of the vox populi, now vacant, vanished, as the once vital voice of the verisimilitude now venerates what they once vilified. However, this valorous visitation of a by-gone vexation, stands vivified, and has vowed to vanquish these venal and virulent vermin vanguarding vice and vouchsafing the violently vicious and voracious violation of volition. The only verdict is vengeance; a vendetta, held as a votive, not in vain, for the value and veracity of such shall one day vindicate the vigilant and the virtuous. Verily, this vichyssoise of verbiage veers most verbose vis-à-vis an introduction, and so it is my very good honor to meet you and you may call me V." - V

11-08-2003, 09:51 AM	#3 (permalink)
Amano Insane	I definitely agree with sillygirl. She's done it twice to you now, and if you call, even in a week, that'll appear desparate.

11-08-2003, 12:41 PM	#7 (permalink)
Plan9Senior Banned Location: Orange County, California	http://www.tfproject.org/tfp/showthr...threadid=31052

11-08-2003, 01:54 PM	#9 (permalink)
gabshu Psycho Location: The capital of the free world??	She might be playing games with you. I would ask her out and if she doesn't go out with you or call back after that, then screw it, there are other fishies in the sea. Well, let us know what happened either way, if I'm not mistaken the eclipse is tonight (saturday nov 8). __________________ Go Kool Aid. OH YEAAHH http://www.retrocrush.com/archive2003/koolaid/

11-08-2003, 02:06 PM	#10 (permalink)
skysooner Registered User Location: Oklahoma	Yeah, ask her out, and if she gives you the same old song and dance, dump her. If she doesn't then that is okay. There are many girls who won't play games, so it isn't worth it to go out with the girls who do. I put up with that bs in high school, and I stopped putting up with it in college.

11-08-2003, 02:10 PM	#11 (permalink)
phunktastic Insane Location: Dayton, Ohio	Its too late to ask about watching the eclipse tonight like I'd hoped, but I am going to try calling next week and asking her to go out on the weekend. I'll let you guys know how it goes,, hopefully there will be good news __________________ "Relax, the world will spin beside itself and suck you in. With threats and hopes beyond compare"

11-08-2003, 02:34 PM	#12 (permalink)
sillygirl Newlywed Location: at home	Just make sure that you ask her out when you call BEFORE she gets a chance to say, "Gotta run! Can I call you back later?" And if she doesn't respond in an interested manner, or pulls the "Well, let me see and call you back..." then dump her. She isn't worth the shit you're gonna end up going through if you stick around. You deserve better, friend! __________________ Anyone can be passionate, but it takes real lovers to be silly-Rose Franken ....absence makes me miss him more...

11-08-2003, 03:46 PM	#13 (permalink)
Buk Addict Location: Seattle, WA	Just remember that no matter how many stories of high school sweethearts or whatever you hear, 99.99% of all relationships while you are in highschool never amount to anything. Don't torture yourself over whatever happens and just continue living your life regardless...

11-08-2003, 04:08 PM	#14 (permalink)
tecoyah Illusionary	Just ask yourself this.....would you enjoy a REAL relationship with someone who would treat you like that, or would you rather just get naked. If the later, who cares if she calls back. __________________ Holding onto anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one who gets burned. - Buddha

11-08-2003, 09:44 PM	#15 (permalink)
hy_ Crazy	sillygirl is so right on this one, get another one, if she really liked you, she would of called you back the first time,

11-09-2003, 02:14 AM	#16 (permalink)
bermuDa don't ignore this--> Location: CA	sorry to say but i agree with sillygirl. You should give it some time (more than just a week) before you try again. i know that post was pretty pointless, but I just had to mention that Buk's avatar is fuckin hilarious __________________ I am the very model of a moderator gentleman.

11-09-2003, 08:08 AM	#17 (permalink)
vveronica Psycho Location: northern california	I agree with the three call limit... You try three times and no responce then move on she is playing a game... A lot of girls that age like to have a backup plan,,, for guys it would be like having a second car. one you dont use that often but if your main car/boyfriend breaksdown/dumps you, then she has you to fall back on and not be alone. __________________ ...We find ourselves in a struggle for our very right to exsist... We will not go quietly into the night... We will not give up without a fight...