doncalypso

I have noticed that some people here on TFP are very against interracial relationships and seem to have something directed against black people in particular.

My question to you is the following:
Do you approve or disapprove of interracial relationships? And if you disapprove, why?
And please don't just say "...because I think so" or some bullshit to the effect that God disapproves of interracial mixing. And if you're some kind of neo-Nazi or white supremacist skinhead don't bother posting anything and get the hell out of this thread.

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Sugar&Spice

I approve of them. You can't control it if the person you are attracted to has a different skin color. And why should you? It's not what color your skin is, but whats inside that counts right?

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wilbjammin

I don't even think of it like that... people are people first.

Dating someone just because they are from another race is just as stupid as not dating someone because they are from another race. Beyond that, we're living in an increasingly mobilized world, it isn't like dating someone outside of your race or ethnicity is something that you really have to stretch to do.

There are lots of reasons not to date people, I don't see why race should be one of those. It is hard enough to find a good match as it is.

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Shokan

Considering we are all of one race, the human race, I'm afraid I don't understand the question.

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Tuffy_McGee

I dont' mind interracial relationships

I like it more when (for example) a white woman acturally likes black men or one black man than when they just want to fuck the guy becuase they think it's exotic or want to get fucked hard by a big dick or something.

I think wilbjammin also posted the same thing. My post is just confusing.

sexymama

In my lifetime I've dated black, hispanic, asian, and white. That was the color of their skin. Reality is, I date the man -- not the skin.

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Halx

I'm surprised that one could get the impression that there are people who are against such a thing.. maybe I haven't been paying close enough attention.

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Tuffy_McGee

Halx are you being sarcastic?

Have you felt the hate lately?
People you meet every day; do you know how they really feel about other races?
Makes me sick and there's no point in fighting it; there are just too many hatefull people with too much energy.

Now factor in dating and for those hatefull people it's a no brainer.

qtpye4u84

my dad says when the world will end when ppl all look the same he said he read that in the bible once.
hahahahaha.
He, thinks that the only reason I am with my boy friend is because he is not white and I want to make him mad not at all.

I don't know though, I think because I am with some one that's not the same race that i see the relationships just like me more.

It makes me kinda think about what my dad said and some times I see ppl like me and my boy friend and I go why isent she with a white guy because then if she was, then it would make the world more even but thats probably some of what my dad has been saying that just stuck.

I am fine with other ppl from different races getting together but say if they have a kid and they get divorced, whats there chances on finding a white husband? If the girl is white and her kid is different? Just wondering thats what I was always thinking about, but now I don't care.
If I'm dating some one who is different that does not make me wrong or stupid and if some one wan'ts to think that way and judge me on my kid(I dont have one) then there the ones that are wrong.

Paq says" It's hard enough finding love, why limit your choices"
Very good I think thats true lol.

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Paq

quote from my brother: "All pink on the inside...."

in all seriousness, though, why add another complication to life and just enjoy what you can. Skin color is the least of my worries...

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ninety09

I'm currently in an interracial relationship. I'm caucasian and my girlfriend is asian. It never caused any problems for us. Both of our families are fine with it.

I don't buy the whole "there is only the human race" thing though. I think that there are a lot of differences us. We both have different cultures, traditions and values. We can learn a lot from each other and this makes the relationship very interesting.

la petite moi

I just said I have no opinion because it's not place to judge others for what they like! That's why I didn't say 'Hell yeah, variety is the spice of life!' It's not...variety...really. It's just attraction to another human being. Just because they have darker skin doesn't really mean it's variety.

That being said, I like a guy that is the same 'race' and 'colour' as me. So whatever, I can't judge others. And in addition, I am basically agreeing with Shokan.

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RAGEAngel9

Ugly is still ugly no matter the color.
The inverse works too.


However, I do have a thing for Asian chicks.
woot.

Kazic

I have never dated a black female , and as a black male that might make me a minority. I have dated white,Italian,philipina, Spanish.
Women are sexy I don't think I should limit what I like simply because we aren't the same race.

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WarWagon

My ex girlfriend was Korean, and believe me, I had noooo problems with that at all

Nebusol

Biologically, the homo sapiens are a species, not a race. Bulldogs and poodles are both canis familiaris, but they're of a different race. Same goes with caucasians and asians.

ChrisJericho

I'm half white/half japanese. Obviously I have no problems with inter-racial relationships, I'm the product of one! However I'd like to point something out.

All the asian females I know (3) are dating WHITE guys. I'm not saying this is bad, but it's just become SO cliche'. When I walk around campus here at the UW, for every asian-asian couple I see, I see about 6 asian female/white guy combinations. I just kind of feel sorry for the asian guys because they are getting shafted.

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wilbjammin

Why do you think this is? Why aren't there as many asian male/white female couples? Why are there so many asian female/asian male couples?

Janet is originally from the Philippines, but has lived here in the states most of her life. She doesn't relate to the Asian cultures she has been exposed to here. We have both talked about race and relationships, and she's noted that she doesn't like the objectifying nature of many Filipino guys. When she talks to her family in the Philippines she hears a lot about these games that go on between the sexes. She isn't attracted to most Filipinos because she doesn't like their attitudes towards relationships.

Are the Asians you see at UW predominantly Asian-language speaking only with a little English, or are there many who speak English predominately? What do you think it means culturally that you see the phenomenon? Does it have to do with the media or what?

I didn't go seeking out Janet because she's Asian... we just had a strong connection from the beginning. I think it is weird that so many guys talk about Asian women as "fetishes". It is something that I worry about a bit, esp. if we ever have a girl in the future. Why is it that it is culturally acceptable to reduce Asian women to sex-objects?

I guess I've said a lot here, someone else can feel free to start a new thread on this.

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Holo

I believe in one person loves another regardless of what they are. If love is present, it goes beyond color, size, disability, or anything else. I'll be honest and say I'm turned off by certain races and don't like to see certain mixes, but if I knew those two were in love I would never stand in the way of that. Plus I lost my virginity to a Korean so regardless of my personal preferences I can't stand in the way of others pursuing interracial love.

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crow_daw

Well, I completely think that it's fine. I went through a stage where I was into black chicks hard(I'm a white guy), and I think its totally fine. That makes me the minority here, I live in Tennessee, and sadly, there's a lot of racism. But I also know many people who think that its the wrong thing to do even though they're not racist. I know that's weird, but its true. But as for me, hells yeah.

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guthmund

I really couldn't care less what color they are. Hot is hot regardless of the ethnicity and skanks are skanks. It's the universal language of love....or at least, uncontrollable lust.

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ally

i'm white currently dating a white guy, have dated black guys,.... everything.
For some reason I'm really attracted to asian guys

Jim Kata

I'm color blind.

Peetster

I'm curious how you came to this conclusion.

anti fishstick

well Will said most of it for me, but i just wanted to add and restate a few things.. what's so cliche about it? i don't see myself as a cliche at all. then again, i'm a little out of place from asian subculture because there isn't a minority group big enough around here for me to cling to. even if there was, i doubt i'd be there.

i think it's important to ask why it is always asian females you see with white males and not the other way around? why are asian males getting "shafted"? like i said, Will pretty much covered it for me but i think it's refreshing to get out of that weird mindset a lot of asian men have about relationships. when i visited the philippines a few months ago, i talked to a guy who went to HS in california for two years and he told me about how he dated a japanese, korean and two filipinos.. as if minor details like that somehow suggested variety? i thought he was just dating them for the sake of dating "japanese", "korean" and "filipino" and i didn't understand that at all. it's refreshing to date someone who doesn't care about that because a part of being caucasian is being a mix of different heritages anyway. it doesn't matter but i see it mattering to a lot of asian cultures. they would ask me why i hadn't "tried a filipino" yet.. again, the same mindset as the guy i was talking to.. except this was coming from a filipino girl that was newlywed! it just amazes me how you can culturally adopt this kind of mindset and it made me feel really alienated to my own culture/people. i just grew up thinking different i guess. even a filipino women who waitressed us at a thai restaurant once started going off on how she didn't like filipino men because they're such players! i thought it was funny. but very true.. there's less value there.

a teacher at least 10 years older than me was hitting on me in the philippines. i told him i had a boyfriend but he said it was ok because i wasn't married. just experiences like that boggle me.. and it really makes me sad.

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Pellaz

Can't understand how this is such a large issue even today, I mean, what's it matter if I have blonde hair or black hair? Different cultures, now, is a completely different story. I doubt I'd of considered seriously dating a woman, say, raised in India seriously, but even then, it would come down to the situatio

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doncalypso

There was a thread titled "I like my women the way I like my coffee" (or something like that) where people were supposed to say how they prefer their women... instead it turned into a black female bashing thread where some racist members posted comments like "...black women look like monkeys..." or that "..the only good-looking black women are those with some 'European' features..." and other such racist comments.

It would have been one thing if some of the guys had said that they just prefer white women, or Asian women, or latina women... but instead it turned in to an anti-black fest. So therefore, logic dictates that there is quite a handful of racist people here on TFP, and I'm pretty sure they'd be the first to go against interracial dating because they probably fear black people would "contaminate the gene pool" or some other bullshit like that.

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onetime2

Since my fiancee is Korean and I am Caucasian I'm obviously not against them.

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dabossy2k

Wow this made for some interesting reading. Me being a Black man I prefer Latin girls. I have dated the entire rainbow and I loved them all but I just ended up prefering latin girls. I am dating one now and she is wonderfull. Don't think I could ask for more. But I agree with what doncalypso said about black people. Now this is just my observations. Sometimes black guys and black girls just get a bad rap. I have a close group of friends all of us are a mixture of races, and we talk about this all the time cause when they see a white guy or a latin guy or a asian guy and he hooks up with a girl of the same race or possibly different one and then she plans a party or event. He asks if he can bring some friends, a question that always seems to get asked is are they black. Don't know why I really don't care but just a observation.

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Redlemon

I remember that thread, and I didn't remember anything like that in there. So, I went back to look. For those of you who are interested, the thread is: Tilted Forum Project - I like my women like I like my cofee...
I found the 'monkey' line, and that was specifically referring to one specific black woman, Tyra Banks (and I don't even know who she is).

I'd say 99% of this thread is within-bounds. Certainly no pervasive black hating.

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hrdwareguy

A lot of racial tension still stems from the parents. Kids learn from their parents and until kids start thinking on their own, they will continue to be brainwashed by the parents into the belief that Race A is superior to Race B, C, D and E.

A lot of this still comes from segregation. Expecially in small towns in the south and midwest. Take my father-in-law for example. He grew up in a small town in Oklahoma. He will get along with people of other races because he has to in his job. Get him outside his job and he will tell you that he is about as racist as you can get. And to a point he acts this way with people he doesn't know.

Personally I think there are assholes in every race as well as decent people of every race. I'd just as soon stick all the assholes in a group and hate them together.

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BooRadley

My take :

As a caucasian male, I like asian females. I don't particularly like them just because they are asian... I like them because they have a different attitude. The physical attraction is often less than a white female, but ...

For whatever reason, I've seen more positive results with asian girls than most white girls. And I have no idea why, because I'm a tall redneck. They appreciate my company more, and they appreciate my gentlemanly attitude.

I prefer being myself around girls, which hardly ever works around white girls. The fake-asshole attitude is only tolerable for so long. So, I seek out, and will continue to seek out, asian girls. I'll be the first to admit I haven't had a serious relationship with one yet, as they are rare around Kentucky. I have dated two.

And I'd much rather spend my time around girls who like me than ones I have to struggle with. I don't have time to go appeasing attention whores.

Hrothgar

I'm hispanic and I love white girls. So i don't give a shit what other people say nor do I care who other people want to fuck.

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Halx

Some of the more attractive people out there come from mixed pairings.. heh

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hobo

I have no problem with it. I have found myself attracted to females of every race.

cherriesue

My parents are a mixed couple and I was raised to accept people no matter what their background is. I think it's sad that this is even still an issue today.

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Boo

I encountered interacial marriages all during my 21 years in the AF. Some worked and some didn't. I personally believe that at least a few of them didn't work because of the differences in upbringing, religion, personal values and lifestyle. It is hard to learn to eat a new food 3 times a week, or attend an outwardly vocal church when you are a shy person. Some people adjust quickly to new ways, some don't.

I want everyone to be in a great relationship or be on the way out of a crappy one. Life is short, why be miserable?

Does race matter, no. Mutual compatability does (but that is another thread).

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Cynthetiq

I'm in an interacial and interfaith marriage.

Piss off to those that don't think that I should be married to my wife. I have no interest in anyone from my heritage OR my faith.

My first girlfriend was also white and jewish. She was interested in dating me not because she liked me but because it was trendy to date interacially.

read my sig.

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ChrisJericho

Which mixes do you not like to see?

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