EnderTM

Alright, here it goes.
I have been reading these forums for about a month or more now. Reading peoples trouble and curiosity I have found it incredably interesting and helpful. Well now I have a problem of my own and it makes me very uncomfortable, so here it is:

I've been friends with this girl for a few months now and basically everytime we see each other we hook up. It got to the point where after a lot of foreplay and such she gave me a blowjob(my first one), and this is where the problem occurs. I came after a little over a minite of her doing it. A few weeks later and the same thing happened. I don't know if its that I have an over reactive penis or what. I'm also worried that this problem will keep occuring, and this may lead to problems with sex.

Thanks for you time.

adam

I'm going to guess that you are young... it's a common problem with young guys. Often compensated by a fairly impressive ability to regain erection! Some options:
1) Just get it up again. If there is time in between there are lots of very nice things you could do for her! (Actually, it's usually a good idea to start with that to ensure she gets off.) And usually, you will find it easier to control the second erection.
2) Masturbate a bit before she comes over. If you can get the timing down, this can help a lot, but it might be more fun for her if you masterbate after she comes over. (You'll have to judge, it depends on the girl.)
3) Learn to slow down as needed. This is a great skill to have but may take some practice to perfect...

CityOfAngels

There are three possibilities:
1) She's damned good at giving head.
2) You get excited easily.
3) 1 and 2 combined.

So here are three solutions:
1) Consider yourself extremely lucky. Don't change a thing unless it's bothering her. If it is, reassure her that she's doing a great job, but she needs to slow it down a bit; make it more of an experience to remember rather than a big explosion of ecstacy (not that there's anything wrong with that).

2) When you're home alone, masterbate A LOT. By a lot I don't mean to the point of bleeding; but you obviously need some practice. When you masterbate, practice holding it in when its time to ejaculate. The more you practice it, the easier it is to succeed in doing so. I'm serious, too. I've been yanking the tank ever since elementary school, and when I lost my virginity at age 18, it lasted over an hour, and my girlfriend at the time thought I was lying when I told her she was my first!

3) 1 and 2 combined.

stonegrody

I don't see what the problem is. It just means you enjoy what she is doing to you. You could try to hold on and not finish so early but if she doesn't have a problem with it, then what's to worry about? If you are worried that you're not going to be able to last long enough for sex, that's a different story. Hopefully you'll wear a condom and that should decrease the sensitivity. If it's not enough, you could try a desensitizing cream so you don't blow your load right away. Sex can be awkward at first but if this turns into a relationship, it will definitely get better with time and practice. It may also help to masturbate before you see her like adam mentioned. Don't worry too much about it, that could lead to other problems. Be safe and have fun!

MageB420666

Masturbating a lot will definitly help, I masturbate all the time and I lasted over forty-five minutes my first time and can even keep on going for well over an hour now that I have had more experience. And if that doesn't help just start thinking about Barbara Streisand naked on a cold day.

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Meier_Link

You all need to clarify. If you masturbate you need to do it for extended periods. Don't just go to the Titty Board and jerk off for 1 - 2 minutes as needed; practice holding off. Try to find your threshold before the point of no return, then find some way to communicate to her that you need her to slow down then...

I typically masturbate for 30 - 60 minutes before I let myself get off, and it definitely helps in bed.

Flyguy

My opinion:

If this girl is the first girl you've become sexually active with, I'd consider it normal. Until you get used to the feeling that go along with sex, I'd expect someone to prematurely shoot their load. I'll admit I was the same way when flygirl and I first started having sex.

And I totally agree with the others, choke the chicken before you go and see he if you expect to get your freak on so that you'll last longer. Also, if she's cool about it she'll understand it and work with you to help you relax.

Basically, just go with the flow.

amge

Yeah I would say practice before.

Or it could be her oral skills are sooooo good that you blow early no matter what.

CityOfAngels

In which case you must give me her name and phone number.

rukkyg

Uhmm... I just got used to it and lasted longer without changing anything. I think the first couple times it's so new that it happens fast, that's all.

Chuckles

blowjobs are cool. :P

raven12

If you masturbate before she comes over you will last a lot longer.

davik

Generally I'd say it isn't a horribly big deal if you're not lasting long when the girl is going down on you as it can be somewhat tedious for them (I'm the other way, I'll last an hour easy and my g/f gets tired of it); however, if this carries over to other things it becomes more of a problem. At that point do what other people have been suggesting and masterbate alot while doing your best to prolong it as much as possible. Beyond that, remember that sex is mostly mental, if you can zone out your mind you can last as long as you want; just think of other things, preferably as non-erotic as you can get :P

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