what's the deal w/ girls and height??
 

i measure 5'8" which i consider to be at the bottom end of average height. the other day my friend was showing me the personal pages he was looking through on a website and i couldn't believe what i saw.... 90% of all the adds were asking for a guy to be taller than 6 feet. this is including the ad's from girls who were short, from 4'11" to 5'2"! now before anyone brings it up i understand the angles of caveman kind of instinct/father figure psychology and i understand the whole "i've to to do a projection equation for when i go out in high heels" angles on the topic. i also understand wanting someone close to your height if you're a girl and you're taller than 6 feet yourself. but heres what i was wondering....

1) why do you think this discrimination is coming from short girls? isn't having a guy thats half a foot taller than you enough to slow dance with and feel masculinely embraced and safe? do you really wear heels often enough that it's worth cutting the entire 5'8 - 5'10 bracket out?

2) how many of you girls have gone out with shorter guys? how did that work for you?

3)it's a little more common, but i'd also like to hear from guys who dated taller girls. i've done so myself and it went off without a hitch. i loved it and still am attracted to girls that seem to be too tall for some of my friends.

Im 5'2 so most guys are taller than me anyway hehehehe and even if I wear my 5 inch dominatrix heels it only makes me 5'7

Dave is 5'9....I always felt kind of wierd with guys over 6 feet...it hurts my neck to look up at them

I'm 5'9" and rarely ever wear heels, I've dated guys as short as 5'5" -- he seemed to have more of a problem with it than I did - I think the day he was strugging to reach something off a top shelf in my apartment and I just up and grabbed it (I also have long arms) I think he saw that as an affront to his masculinity.

Height doesn't matter

yea i have seen this alot on other boards....i dunno i don't see women require this in "reality" just on the internet.

from what i have seen a lot claim that they feel safer with a tall guy..... :confused:

I'm 6'3, and have never had a problem with any girls height. I even dated a girl for the longest time that was only only 4'11. She used to love it when we'd dance and her feet would be a foot off the ground.
On the other hand, I do think I'd be uncomfortable dancing with my feet a foot off the ground.

geez penis size matters, height matters you women just don't give guys a break do you :eek:

I said height doesn't matter, and meant it... He seemed to think I was too tall. And penis size doesnt matter, it's ain't what you got - it's what you do with it...

I'm 6'4" so the issue has never really come up.

Though during my days as a bartender in Germany, I got to know a girl who I estimated to have a height of 6'8" (When she wasn't wearing heels). She was a really nice girl, and I can tell you that height wasn't an issue with her though I suspect it was because she was taller than just about every guy she knew. I can also say that I wasn't bothered by her height, in fact, it gave her the most amazing pair of legs I've ever seen. The only time it felt wierd was if she stood right behind me.

yea i am the same height too and well i have been told i am too tall :eek:

Personally I have a HUGE preference for shorter women (around the 5' bracket) but have dated women only as tall as me and no taller (5'8). As scary as it sound apparently this all goes back to looking to find someone like your mother if you are a guy from when you were 1-2 years old, or someone like ur father if you're female. Apparently we all subconciuosly look for the same characteristics that we've seen in them and i'd agree with that!.. but yes.. it's all about short women :D

I'm 6'3" and prefer shorter girls, always. I could NEVER date a girl that is taller than me.

Being that I am 5'10" height does matter to me. Sorry but I just don't want a short boyfriend. I like to warp my arms around a tall man.

Alot of the girls I talk to do seems to like taller guys. Being a 5'8" guy myself, this doesn't help me out alot. A girl I know was laughing at an old friend of hers because her friend was getting married to a shorter guy. I don't understand it either. That's why I play guitar. Doesn't matter how short you are, girls dig musicians!

i'm 6'6 and have always dated shorter girls, for obvious reasons. i prefer shorter women < 5'10".

in about 5'11 or maybe 6' with my shoes on, and I like shorter women, like the 5'1-5'6 bracket... but i have nothing against 5'10 women or anything like that, i like to have the woman a little shorter than me and for some reason I'm attracted to shorter women, but any women as tall- or shorter is fine with me

I actually just met some really pretty German girls this weekend and they were about 5'8 and 5'10 (sisters) and they were amazingly beautiful

I agree with blahblah454

I've dated girls from 5'1" to 6'2". I like them all. I prefer girls about 5'6" to 5'8". I'm 6'

I'm 6' even. I've mostly dated shorter women and my wife now is shorter than me. I guess I have no other point.

Actually, I prefer girls in the 5'5-5'8 range, though I don't have a problem with girls that are my height or taller (I'm 5'11-6'-ish).

Honestly height doesn't matter. My husband is 6'5 and I'm almost 5'5. I'll tell you a foot size difference is awesome for spooning, but other then that no big difference.

I've dated men of all heights, it really just matters whether they were an asshole or not.

Kit

I'm a tad under 6 foot(seriously I'm like 5' 11" and 3/4s so how would you like that hanging over your head that you can never honestly say you are a 6 footer) and while I admire a tall woman I will admire her from afar. I have a major hangup about being the same height or shorter than a potential mate. I think it stems back to the fact that my dad is like 5'8" and my mom is like 5'7" and when she wears heels she looks down on him and she used to always make jokes about him when he wasn't around.

Besides I like the shorter female because you can pick them up and spin them around and what not and as a consequence I would say the average height of my girlfriends would be right at 5'2-5'3". Not quite a foot in difference(contemplated dating a girl that was 4'11" even but looking back that might have just been a little too petite)
Not so easy to do with someone the same height as you or taller. So I think there is something behind a lot of shorter women wanting a bigger guy to be with as it just might make them feel more "secure" and it might even be more practical(i.e. reaching for things up high etc...).
I would like to see some numbers though of how many tall tall women like 5'9" and above date men significantly shorter than they are.

At 6'1", I've got an even foot on lurkette. We look pretty funny standing next to each other.

you are soooo my hero -- Being an inch under 5'10" - I've never been refered to as shorter in my life... made my evening :D

Well, it seems no one responding is actually addressing your question because the situation isn't even applicable. Being 5'7" and white is a little awkward, but there's not much one can do about genetics. And there is no denying the ethnicity aspect, because there are different average heights which dictate different norms.

As to why women seem to prefer taller men (yes, just look at the Fark Personals), I would guess it is an implicit biological preference as others have implied. Even for the shorter women, I think there is still the desire to seek out a partner of "average height", regardless of the disparity. It is also more advantageous to be above the average than below it. On the male side of the coin, when the female is taller, there seems to be a sense of emasculation which only compounds the existing problem.

Nonetheless, it is important to not carry a chip on one's shoulder because of a perceived genetic short-changing. It is unfortunate that, like size, height matters to a certain degree. Find solace in always having enough leg room.

I'm 6' even and I've only dated girls, and eventually women under 5'7". I'm sorry.
Studies have shown conclusively that when babys are held and touched mroe often, it promotes growth. Unfortunatally, all the holding in the world can't keep up with genetics.

I'm only 5'2" on a good day and my boyfriend is 6'0". I have always been attracted to guys who are a lot taller than me. I'm not really sure why. But then again most guys are a lot taller than me. I think 5'7 would be fine.

I'm 6'4", never really been with a woman who was taller than me. I always have preferred the shorter women 5'1"-5'7".

At 6'3 it would be hard to find a girl who was taller than me, and I dunno, a girl who was taller than me would be wierd. It would be one thing if I was 5'6 or something, but she'd have to be an amazon or something now.

Apparently, height in a guy is a plus for women, because alot of my female friends mention it whenever they talk about how attractive i am.

Eitherway, i guess women are genetically programmed to be attracted to 'larger' hence, taller guys :p

I am 6'2 and my wife is 5'6.
It works well for us :)

If I can ballroom dance with her, she's the right height :)

I'm 5'6". Now, had you done that to me...I'd just be happy that I didn't have to break out with the step stool. :D What a quivering mass of insecurity. :rolleyes:


Again...I'm 5'6". That attitude would severely limit my playing field.


:p Allright...no ballroom dance lessons for you, Missy.

nwlinkvxd is perfect for me. I'm 5'3, and he is 5'7. =)

Years back, in another life, when I was a store manager for a woman's clothing store, I had inherited an employee who had been with the store since the beginning of time. She must have been in her late 60s early 70s -- from Brooklyn originally, and had no censor on her mouth at all...

Well, my boss was in one day, who was all of 5'5" and quite insecure about being around tall women, well, Rita comes up to him one day (Rita was 6 feet tall and very very solid) and says - Hey, Jack, is it true that short men are hung?

(I don't think I could talk for a good 20 minutes from being convulsed with laughter - he just had to leave the office and I didn't see him the rest of the day... So -- gotta know -- is it true?)

Why, yes. Yes, it is true. :D

Note:
I had simply replied "Ayep :D ", but aparantly that wasn't a *ahem* "looong" enough response. :lol: I crack me up.

Mal Im going to say in my vast experience..every man I went out with that was between 5'6-5'8 were WAY better hung than the taller guys......not that it mattered of course, just saying thats been my experience....:)

The same piece of meat looks bigger on a smaller plate.

KIDDING!!!

but plate size doesnt fill up your mouth any more/less ahahahahaha

At 6'1" I am a full head taller than my wife. It doesn't seem to effect our relationship unless she needs something off the top shelf.

6'4", no preference on girls heights...

I'm 5'6" and have dated many girls taller than me. I used to work in the entertainment industry (musician/radio personality) and had a thing for models for a while so the girl being taller never bothered me. There are girls out there of course that prefer or even insist on a taller man but thats never bothered me either. Everyone has preferences. Some people like red hair, some blue eye, some have income requirements, lots of different criteria for dating and mating. Me, I'm not crazy about really darkly tanned girls or girls with tattoos. Nothing wrong with those things, they just don't float my boat. I think too that on the personals ads many women describe their ideal. They ask for someone six foot or over but if they just met the five foot eight guy at a party and they really hit it off then maybe the height issue would dissapear.

I'm 6'5" and I've always preferred shorter girls. I don't know why I just like them. I've dated 3 girls (including the one I am starting to date now) who were 5'0" and they have all said my height was a turn on. I'm not sure why girls like tall so much but it seems to be a popular thing. My most recent ex said it was a huge turn on for her (she was 5'6"). I've gone on a couple of dates with a girl who was 6'2" and I didn't really like her that much, but it wasn't because of her height. My basic rule is just nobody taller than me...

See i think I may be one of the few guys in this world that think that height on a female is super hot! Im almost 6'2'' and i love it! My girlfriend now is 5'10'' and it makes things so much easier and i think its super hot! I would have no problem dating or being with someone that is taller than me at all, i encourage my g/f to wear heels all the time, for numerous reasons! I love legs and an ass and heels make both look a lot better!

My girlfriend had a strict rule that a guy had to be at least 6 foot tall, well I am only 5'10" and we have been together for 2 1/2 years now. I think that women (and men) get a lot of ideas what they want in a perfect guy/girl, but you just have to make them see past thier ideal image they have formed and get them to see your good points.

ummmm oooookkk :rolleyes:



but anyways funny that this same topic came up on anther Mb i visit and all the women said they feel more secure with a a guy thats 6+ feet tall......i dunno why none gave anymore input when asked

I just feel safer with a nice tall guy...and I feel sexier when he wraps me up in his arms. Sorry guys, I can't handle a guy shorter than 5'10 or so....

I've never met a girl/woman who was taller than me. Problem is, being too tall scares them away in social situations.

That's great news. I'm 6'3. :D So girls, keep up with your crazy height thing, you're doing a great job. ;) From my end though, I like shorter girls too, because I guess you might say it adds to the "cute" factor. I love tiny things of all types. :D

(I don't think I could talk for a good 20 minutes from being convulsed with laughter - he just had to leave the office and I didn't see him the rest of the day... So -- gotta know -- is it true?)

well, i may be 5'8" but i wear a size 11 shoe. i have a buddy my height who shocks and awes all the girls too.... you shoulda seen the attention he got when he hadn't been snowboarding in awhile and his pants were too tight.

I'm 6'0 and my wife is 4'11. It makes for difficulty in the sack sometimes, not to mention the shower is out of the question. From personal experience having dated a 6'2 woman just before I met my wife, I decided shorter women were definately for me.

Mal, nwlinkvxd has some very nice manhood. Teehee.

For example, please see our photo shoots in Exhibition.

ok... so heres' what i've learned from starting this thread.

1) girls like guys to be tall, way tall.... 99% of the time. no matter how short they are. and even more most definitely if you're a tall girl.

2) a surprising amount of tall guys out there prefer petite women.

so therefore, if you're a guy and you're shorter than 5'10 or so, you're too short for women who are taller than you and not tall enough for women who are shorter than you. also, tall guys are primarily targeting the only demographic of girls that you actually have a chance of being just barely tall enough for.

i guess thats why they call it the short end of the stick.

Dang, I'm short and play mandolin (not a chick magnet). I don't understand the height thing. In school I dated a taller chick once. Never really thought about it before I asked her out. People would point it out when we were together. It wasn't too bad unless she wore heals and then she was out of reach.

Not all of us tall guys are into petite women. Being 6'4" and have in the past dated girls a short as 5'4", it feels like I'm having to take a bow just to kiss her. Taller women are more on an equal level.

And also being a bit of a leg man, taller women have longer legs.

plus based on the observations, it looks like there's less competition for taller women.

Height shouldn't matter, true, but for some reason, I absolutely love tall men....at least 6'. I am 5'1"; my husband is 6'4". I just have a preference for tall men. I'd take an average-looking tall guy over a totally hot "shorter" guy.

oh i concur i like tall women

but too bad they are in such short supply in my city :hmm:

Yes, that is pretty much the short of it. ;) The potential partner population would appear to be significantly smaller for men under average height.

I don't believe there is any correspondence, or at least none that I can attest to.

I think alot of it has to do with napoleon complex. Girls dont want a guy with a "little man" attitude.