Holo and Halx give the right advice...communication is the key, and when someone doesn't want to communicate, that itself is a thundering communication which roughly translated means "for whatever reason which I may or may not be aware of, I'm fucking with you." Good luck.

Maybe it's a domination thing? Is she into s&m at all?

So has anything happened with this situation, Cervantes?

Hope she isn't cheating on you.

I've been with my girl friend for the last 6 years, so don't make any assumptions. We have one of the best relationships amongst any of our friends. In fact, many of my friends want to know what have we done to last for such a long time.

All I'm saying, which is also repeating what many have said, is WHY???? Why allow something to go on for such a long time. I don't agree with a lot of things Tom Leykis has to say, but when it comes to dealing with women, he makes lots of good points. In fact, the points are so right on that I've tired some of them on my women co-workers....they all say "we don't want badass guys in our lives" but they do the opposite and get even more attracted to me when I act like an a-hole.

Cervantes - Unless you know this girl is worth everything, believe in your self and know that you can always do better. Remember this. All women want a man to be able to protect them (no matter what they say....i've had many many conversations with different women regarding this topic)

DO NOT LET SEX TAKE OVER YOU. It's your place, it's your rules.

I have nothing against you, I don't even know you. All I want is the best for you. Remember....life is a cycle, you have times of good and bad. Just step back and look at the graph.

I'ts all back to normal as far as I can see, I found out some more about where she go the idea though. She has (or rather had at this point) this friend who enjoys playing with her boyfriends in this manner. She suggested my SO to try it aswell. Unfortunently my SO isn't all that experienced when it comes to relationships so she didn't forsee the problem with playing this way.

As it is now there was a bit of uneasiness when I tried your advice about physical intimacy. We haven't been that way since we moved in together. But the awkwardness gave way and it's working out just fine.


Pules,
She is definently worth it. She just doesn't think some things through (just like myself). The reason I let it go on for over a month was that at first it didn't bother me that much. It wasn't untill I relaized she wouldn't stop that it became really annoying and frustrating.

I'm glad that open communication was the path you took and the path that worked. Any time open communication does not work, it is not time for revenge or drastic measure, it's time for help, in whatever form you need it to be in.

Again, glad it's all worked out (for now). Just remember what worked next time something comes up.

Glad it worked out nicely . . . just keep being honest with yourself and with her and everything will fall into place.

Sweetpea

congrats...it seems like you're reaping the dividends of investing in patience and communication. that to me, says more in response to some of the other suggestions than anything else. :thumbsup:

I'm glad it is all working out. Keep it up. It is worth it. My wife surprises me all the time, and it all stems from step-by-step communication and working at the physical part of our relationship.

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