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Anal Sex

Discussion in 'Tilted Life and Sexuality' started by EventHorizon, Sep 4, 2011.

  1. POPEYE

    POPEYE Very Tilted

    Location:
    Tulsa

    It does take a special woman, and adding alcohol or smoke to the equation helps. My woman will not want anal, until she is buzzed. We laugh at each other and joke that she is a sexual person,the same as me, then when we get outa our minds we go crazy...When Sandy is buzzed all she thinks about is pleasing me....I really got it good Dude
     
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  2. snowy

    snowy so kawaii Staff Member

    I don't have to be intoxicated anymore. Hell, we moved on to massage to relax me, and I don't even need that anymore. Some stretching, lots of lube, and that's about all I require.
     
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  3. Lindy

    Lindy Moderator Staff Member

    Location:
    Nebraska
    I'm gonna give it another try.:D
    We've talked about it for tomorrow morning's sexfest.:D
    Last time was, meh.
    It wasn't 'painful' but it didn't really ring any bells for me, either.:(
    And I really enjoy it so many other ways.
    I'd like to at least get to know what I'm missing.
     
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  4. Levite

    Levite Levitical Yet Funky

    Location:
    The Windy City
    I had an ex who felt that anal was meh on its own; but with a vibe on the clit or some ben wa balls inside, she thought it rocked. Just sayin'....
     
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  5. OtherSyde

    OtherSyde Slightly Tilted

    Location:
    San Diego, CA

    Good point; women don't have prostates, so it's often not near as pleasurable as it potentially is for dudes without something else thrown into the mix. I highly recommend the We Vibe 4 toy, it is outstanding for this sort of thing (and also regular sex too :)
     
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  6. rogue49

    rogue49 Tech Kung Fu Artist Staff Member

    Location:
    Baltimore/DC
    True, quite often it's the kink that's the thrill, not the sensation...for either party. Personally, sensation-wise, I prefer traditional...good long passionate traditional. ;)
     
  7. Chris Noyb

    Chris Noyb Get in, buckle up, hang on, & be quiet.

    Location:
    Large City, TX
    Back when my wife & I were actually making love, she enjoyed using a dildo (actually a g-spot vibrator which had quit working, her favorite toy) for "DP" during anal.
     
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  8. Lindy

    Lindy Moderator Staff Member

    Location:
    Nebraska
    Well, I have to report that it was pretty darn good OK.:) Did it for quite a while w/lube, then switched to vaginal doggie, back to anal.
    Sunday Sexfest didn't last as long as usual, tho.:(
    Not to sure about hygienic aspect of switching back and forth between. Also, I like to move between vag sex and oral and back.
    Can't make myself do that w/anal, in spite of all the ass to mouth stuff I see in porn.:eek:

    So, in that way, anal seems kind of limiting. But I'm an anal novice, so who knows the future.
     
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  9. snowy

    snowy so kawaii Staff Member

    Yeah, there's a risk of a yeast infection if you go anus to vagina. However, an easy way to avoid it is to start with PIV. Or mix in condoms.
     
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  10. Lindy

    Lindy Moderator Staff Member

    Location:
    Nebraska
    How would a condom help?
     
  11. snowy

    snowy so kawaii Staff Member

    You can take it off between anal and vaginal.
     
  12. Lindy

    Lindy Moderator Staff Member

    Location:
    Nebraska
    Holy Topeka, Batman, how can I be so oblivious to the obvious? (need headslap emoticon)
    Do you do that? Hope that's not too personal, but @snowy, you are at least partly responsible for me giving anal another shot. So to speak.
     
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  13. snowy

    snowy so kawaii Staff Member

    Yup, sometimes that's exactly what we do.
     
  14. healer

    healer Extra Medium

    Location:
    South Africa
    (TL;DR, I got my finger in)

    Like most men, I've wanted to try anal sex for about as long as I've known it was an option. Like most women, my wife is less keen. We've tried it once or twice in the past with no success...just her saying it felt weird and painful. I think she wasn't patient enough to give herself time to adjust etc. She wanted to go from pinky to penis...even I knew that wasn't going to work.

    Now our sex life has been waning of late, and we're trying to make a conscious effort to get things back on track. We just got lazy, imo, and haven't been making the time or putting in the effort. When we do have sex, it's amazing. Fast forward to many years later, two nights ago to be exact. She comes in after her regular evening smoke and says "Let's have sex." She proceeds to pull down my pajama pants and give me one of the best blowjobs of my life. Fast forward a few minutes and I'm doing her half from behind half on her side, and I decide to see what'll happen if I slip her a thumb up the bum. No protest, but no discernable rise on the pleasure-ometer either, so I continue coming back to it every now and again.

    Another 15 mins or so later and she's just had a huge orgasm while on top (I had lost count of the how-many-eth that was), and flops down on her back between my legs. Now one of my favourite things to do is coax another orgasm out of her just after she's had one. This time, though, I used hands to give her simultaneous g-spot, clitoral and index finger up the butt stimulation. The result woke the baby and probably a few of the neighbours. Seems she enjoyed it, but we're not sure if this was just a momentary alignment of the planets or an expansion of our sexual repertoire. Here's hoping! :)
     
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  15. rogue49

    rogue49 Tech Kung Fu Artist Staff Member

    Location:
    Baltimore/DC
    Well, I find most people make the mistake of trying to go full porno from the start.
    It can be progressive over time, y'know...

    First start with a little flick of the tongue while going down on her extensively. (if you're both comfortable with that proposal...and a touch of ATM)
    Or you can do a tiny touch of the pinky instead, a tiny brief stimulation. (as an alternative or both...)

    Then move to a very small penetration while you're down below.

    Move it up...as someone gets more comfortable with the idea and the sensation.
    The use of a toy...smaller at first...then perhaps a bit larger (perhaps something while you are doing your straight fucking)

    And even when you get to the point of full penetration...you still have to have a nice amount of lube and a partner that's willing to take it slow.
    The kink is on the man's part...but the importance of pleasure is the woman's focus. (yes, a man may like the sensation, but really it's the idea of the kink IMHO...the receiver is the big focus here)

    I think it's a step by step process...that needs to be something for the one being pleasured & penetrated.

    Again, my preference is straight...but I'm willing to do things to my partner for her pleasure. That's the focus...and my pleasure from giving it.
     
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  16. rogue49

    rogue49 Tech Kung Fu Artist Staff Member

    Location:
    Baltimore/DC
    It's when you can get into ass worship mode that's the real interesting thing. :D
     
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  17. snowy

    snowy so kawaii Staff Member


    And if you go full porno, OMG, your partner will feel it the next day. Owww.

    It is a gradual thing. It took a few weeks for me to be able to go full porno. Now we haven't had anal in a while, so I'll probably have to start from scratch.
     
  18. Baraka_Guru

    Baraka_Guru Möderätor Staff Member

    Location:
    Toronto
    There's the rub.
     
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  19. snowy

    snowy so kawaii Staff Member

    I definitely find that a lot of rubbing helps.
     
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  20. Lindy

    Lindy Moderator Staff Member

    Location:
    Nebraska
    Some oral attention to his morning woody leading to some well-lubed anal (at my request):D followed by multiple oral-induced orgasms for me, some more anal (at my request):D , and a titty-fuck oral combo led to a real biggie for him.

    A shower a' deux and then out for Belgian waffles with fresh raspberries and real whipped cream, and it wasn't even ten 0'clock yet.:) I love Sunday mornings.

    With plenty of lube, I'm starting to enjoy anal instead of having to work at it.
     
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