Discussion in 'Tilted Life and Sexuality' started by J-Ring, Mar 30, 2012.
Does your wife know?
I hope not
Not cool. If you aren't happy, why not address it with her? If you are, why sink to cheating on her?
I think it's because it's easier for most people to unzip their pants than it is for them to unzip their mouth.
At least the username is fitting.
Really? I get killed for this with all other posts I've seen here?
No, really... your username is Marriedtexasman and your first post essentially talks about how you're going to cheat on your wife.
At least offer a good story as to why you're cheating on your wife. Having lost my wife to an affair with no answers, I'd like to hear it.
And what have you "seen here?" I totally feel like I'm missing out since this place has been pretty slow lately as far as mega-drama.
I mean, mixedmedia and I got into over our dead son Trayvon but I think that's just part of the grieving process.
And our neighbors, the_jazz and ZombieSquirrel, are definitely out of their honeymoon period.
I think that just about everyone on TFP is consistent in saying that people need to be honest in their relationships. Going behind your wife's back to screw some random chic obviously falls outside of that.
I get hit on by married men all the time on OKCupid. I tell them no, I'm not going to be involved in their deceit and I get the sob story about how loveless their marriage is. I'm sympathetic, but not interested. What makes it worse is that most of them are pushy, so deluded they are that they have a right to do what they are doing.
I understand how it is, being unhappy with a spouse, believe you me. I had a cyber-affair with a married man when I was in my second marriage. He was on the other end of the NAmerican continent so it never became physical, although if he were closer I'm pretty sure it would have. So I know what that's like. But looking back on it, I see that I was too cowardly and comfortable to end the relationship and pursue other things so I decided I would just have it both ways. Even though it turned out that my husband was involved with far more serious transgressions at the time, it doesn't excuse the fact that I was being selfish. I would have been far better off just ending the relationship then (years before it finally did) and going my own way. Call that advice, if you like.
Take care. Truly didn't mean to upset feelings.
No one is upset. We're just talking here.
I don't think anyone is upset, just disagreeing with your planned course of action. Nor do I think that should cause you to leave.
Can someone then do me the favor of erasing the posts dealing with this. I will from here on out only speak of my wife and our sexual relationship.
Been there, done that, got the t-shirt, and despite all the time that has elapsed, it still sucks. Consider it, be tempted by it, but in the end, it is a bad idea.
Veering back to the topic, I can say that I had three very different "best sex ever" experiences.
The most recent was the sex Mrs. Levite and I had right after we found out the IVF worked and she was knocked up. The physical side is always great between us, but the level of intimacy with this was just beyond belief. It was closer than I've ever felt to anyone. I'm not sure I have good words for what it was like.
Prior to that, it was with the last relationship I had before getting married. She was an incredible force of personality, a remarkable intelligence, and a former stripper. She was deep into meditation, energy work, and raising consciousness, and not only did she have amazing physical skills, but she was the only person I've ever done it with (sans pharmaceutical assistance) who made sex into an altered consciousness experience. She literally made me see trails, colors, and have synesthesia orgasms all through my body, not to mention simply being able to amplify the feeling of orgasm through manipulation of chi (qi). She said I was able to do the same for her, by the end. That was wild.
And the first was my first serious girlfriend, when I was a high school kid. Nothing like the intimacy of married sex with the mother of my child, no consciousness raising special effects like the second experience, but purely physically, maybe the most remarkable of my life. She was, physically, the farthest out of my league of any girl I've ever been with. Stunning redhead, with an almost improbable body. Deeply horny girl, very into games and experimentation. She wanted to do stuff that I never found anyone else willing to do, and threw herself into sex like every time was the last time she'd ever get to experience it. We once had a weekend together where we spent probably 36 hours in bed, probably 18 of which were either having sex or foreplay or afterplay. I have never come more than then: I'm pretty sure that weekend I came nine or ten times; we lost track of how much she came-- I lost count in the twenties. Oral, anal, 69, fingers/hands, titwank, every position I've ever known (and some she taught me then), vibes, beads, ben wa balls, rope, scarves, a riding crop, a big feather, ice, food...all figured in at some point or another. And that weekend, if the most involved "marathon" experience we shared, was still just the tip of the iceberg....
When I was a high school kid, with my first girlfriend, I could do that in one evening, and still be in bed sleeping by 10!
Thankfully I have a little more self control now.
No. We don't erase posts unless there's a very compelling reason to do so. Thus far you haven't provided one.
One thing you'll discover here is that we're not all going to agree all the time - we'd shut the place down if it happened. You could take the time to explain why you're doing what you're doing and maybe you'd find folks willing to be sympathetic at least. Right now, though, your lack of justification just makes you look bad. But if you're comfortable with that, so are we. [shrug]
Yeah, first girlfriend? I came 13 times in like 8 hours once. I swear to god she was trying to mummify me through overuse of my prostate.
And I was totally fine with it.
I cannot believe how much time I wasted fucking when I was 18. I mean, she'd come over at like 9 AM and we'd only take a break to eat or shower.
"So... uh... you wanna watch a movie? I feel like we should do something else."
*ends up getting a blowjob during the movie*
I haven't had much sex at all. Really. Could count the number of times on both hands. Such is the crime of a Long Distance Relationship. *sighs*
SO FAR, my favourite sex act involved me teasing him to the point of him begging for it. It was fantaaastic.
And there's those memorable times where after orgasm my legs were like jelly.
I still giggle when I think of the first time I orgasmed while riding him, and it made me shake/shiver. He was surprised. Hahaha...
I'm sure the best sex I've ever had is yet to come, though.
This might sound silly but there have been two times where it's been mind blowing. The most recent was with my girlfriend when our daughter was conceived. She had moved out of state for a job with me to follow in a couple of months so we were maybe seeing each other once or twice a month (which is how we know when the baby was conceived). That weekend, I only got to see her for a day before I had to go home and it was mind blowing. Something about us feeling closer and relaxed made it pretty rad. I lost motor functions for 20 minutes because of how intense it was.
The only other time I came nearly as intense was years ago with an ex-girlfriend who gave me an orgasm by riding me like Major Kong and then kept me orgasming by sucking me off until I almost passed out. Oh yeah, we were at the park.
Damn, gotta stop doing that then.
--- merged: Jun 15, 2012 at 7:25 PM ---
Ended up with 4 external and 5 internal stitches at the base of my spine. Great night.
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