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How much do you share about your sex life with your friends and family?

Discussion in 'Tilted Life and Sexuality' started by fresnelly, Apr 19, 2012.

  1. fresnelly

    fresnelly Getting Tilted

    Location:
    Toronto
    I haven't shared anything except a bit of post-vasectomy shop-talk with a friend who also got the procedure.

    I like the idea of being as open as one could be on here for example but I'm held back by the unknown of the others' taboos. I just assume that bringing up sexual preferences and practicesl is a creeper move and conversation killer. How does one risk broaching such a personal subject anyway? Probably with booze I guess.

    How much do you reveal and discuss openly with friends and family? Have you shocked anyone or been shocked yourself?
     
  2. rogue49

    rogue49 Tech Kung Fu Artist Staff Member Donor

    Location:
    Baltimore/DC
    Well, I'm very open with my cousin. (guy...born exactly one year earlier)
    We share all experiences for the most part.

    Same goes for my dad, who's a pervert. (I just have make it general, specifics would taken to a dark strange place I don't want to go)

    My mom is a Labor & Delivery nurse, and Child-birth prep teacher to boot.
    So, she's got an open mind...I'm kind of open with her, just not specific.
    My mother in law is a Surrogate Birth and IVF expert.
    So, she can handle certain info...I just don't get too specific...plus I don't know what she may use against me, so I'm careful with info. (she's petty)

    The rest of the family, I just don't get into conversations...so I don't know.

    My sister, who doesn't mind letting everybody know everything about her,
    is freaked out even if she knows a little about me.
    Even a kiss with my wife, weirds her out a bit.
    (says she can't understand how anyone could like me that way. :rolleyes:)

    There's only one friend that I dive into any sexual background with.
     
    Last edited: Apr 19, 2012
  3. Hektore

    Hektore Slightly Tilted

    Well, friends are different than family. My family gets to know about my sex life to the extent that they participate in it, which is to say not at all. With perhaps the exception of my father, who participated insofar as coming over unexpectedly and interrupting is considered participation.

    Friends have more or less a reciprocal relationship - they hear as much or as little as that friend is prone to telling. Though, things are much different now that I've been married a while. I feel like our sex life is much more private than I would have thought before.
     
  4. Remixer

    Remixer Middle Eastern Doofus Donor

    Location:
    Frankfurt, Germany
    With family I share no details on my sex life. Hell, it hasn't even been mentioned yet that I have had sex at any point in my life, let alone what kind.

    Within my friends, there's only two really good mates I openly talk about it. Doesn't come up much, but it's always a lot of fun to rub in their faces the fact that my woman does stuff with me their women would kill them for if they tried. :D
     
  5. Speed_Gibson

    Speed_Gibson Hacking the Gibson Donor

    Location:
    Wolf 359
    Going back to a time when I could actually remember what that term was, not much at all if even that much. But thinking back a few years - of course going to a friend's house that has a pool with your back all scratched up says more than any words will. ;)
     
  6. CinnamonGirl

    CinnamonGirl The Cheat is GROUNDED! Donor

    I can count on one hand the number of times my mother and I have talked about sex. The most amusing was when my parents were trying to breed their chocolate lab, and things were going less than smoothly. Mom said something like, "well, how would YOU like it if you had to have sex all day?" My involuntary grin sort of flummoxed her for a second, after which she rephrased to, "okay, how would you like to have sex all day with someone who had NO IDEA what they were doing?"

    My stepmom and my grandma were pretty cool when I was a teenager, letting me know that I could come to them about any sexual questions/birth control needs/etc. I was a little self-righteous at the time, though, and never really took them up on it.

    Aaaand that's the extent of family conversation about sex. With friends, it's more hypothetical situations, or "ooh, I like when a guy does THAT." Different friends have different levels, of course. And it's almost never specific situations with our current partners, even with the friends who go into more detail. Past partners, porn, and sometimes fantasies are fair game, though.
     
  7. martian

    martian Server Monkey Staff Member

    Location:
    Mars
    I have absolutely no desire to know about the sex lives of other members of my family, and I operate under the assumption that they have no desire to know about mine. With friends though, I'm more or less an open book.
     
  8. streak_56

    streak_56 I'm doing something, going somewhere...

    Location:
    C eh N eh D eh....
    My mother and I are really close so I usually share generalities with her and she usually provides a really good female perspective on things. I have a close buddy that knows everything so he usually is the male perspective. And pretty much no one else knows anything because beyond who I tell, its none of their business and I have stated as much at times.... I have a really nosey, manipulative and they generally LOVE to spread rumours so I try to eliminate myself from their equation.
     
  9. dodger01

    dodger01 Getting Tilted

    My younger brother and I are pretty open on what we do, with who and how. I have a close friend who is as weird and strange as me. We talk in great detail what goes on.
     
  10. AlterMoose

    AlterMoose Slightly Tilted

    Location:
    Pangaea
    For the most part, people in my sphere don't know my practices or preferences. I keep company with several pretty conservative people whose brains might short out if they knew some of my more....let's say 'tilted' stuff. I do have a couple of friends who have an idea as to how twisted I am. Several folks in the inner circle do know about 'Junior', but if they knew where Junior had been, they may not be able to look me in the eye....
     
  11. Plan9

    Plan9 Standing in the Door Donor

    Location:
    This Island Earth
    My birth parents are aware of my unfortunate condition and thus refrain from asking about my love life. A few close friends know.

    It takes some time for the jokes to stop and them to come to terms with the fact that I'm hung like the hood of a new VW Beetle.

    ...

    Seriously? My folks and I don't have crotch parts as far as conversation is concerned (aside from this one awkward teenage moment where my father congratulated me on sexifying a girl on a third date). My male friends usually spend a hot second talking about how they've been "banging it" to some girl they just met and my female friends usually gripe that they wish the guy they just met would "bang it" to them for longer than a hot second.

    Overall, I'm an open book but I don't really have anybody to talk to since it's either conquest talk or to fix a fuck-related problem. Enter: The TFP.
     
    Last edited: Apr 20, 2012
  12. Levite

    Levite Levitical Yet Funky

    Location:
    The Windy City
    My parents and I don't usually talk about our sex lives much, although when it's been especially relevant, we've sometimes discussed some such matters. I don't really have other relatives I speak with much. But my friends and I pretty much have made our lives open books for one another. We often talk about our sex lives, even fairly explicitly.
     
  13. ASU2003

    ASU2003 Very Tilted Donor

    Location:
    Where ever I roam
    I don't have anything to talk about, but even if I did, they would be the last people I would talk about it with.

    I was riding in the car with my more 'liberal' aunt and cousins and they were talking about stuff out in the open (like it should be). I didn't participate.

    I had a few friends in college that were open to talking about things, but it's me that is the problem. I think it would be interesting to talk about it in real life, but I have only done this on-line and semi-anonymous.
     
  14. Shadowex3

    Shadowex3 Very Tilted Donor

    Being "that guy" to a whole lot of girls I have a number of conversations detailed enough for an anatomy textbook. My male friends are surprisingly the less sharing of the two.
     
  15. Charlatan

    Charlatan sous les pav├ęs, la plage Donor

    Location:
    Temasek
    I don't share anything with my friends or family. I don't really see the need to discuss sex with my Mom or my brother. Just not going to happen.

    As for friends, it's just not a topic of discussion that comes up. I suppose, with some, I might share some information but it's just not a part of most discussions.
     
  16. snowy

    snowy so kawaii Staff Member Donor

    As to my parents: We don't talk about it explicitly. My dad likes to make crude jokes that refer to their sex life, but he does it mostly to irritate both my mother and I. My parents know I have sex--have known about it since I first had it--but we don't feel the need to really get into the nuts and bolts. I always knew that if I needed to talk to them about it, I could. A great example of this is when my mother took me for my first well woman exam. The doctor asked my mom to step out of the room, and then the doctor asked if there was anything I wanted to say to her that I couldn't say in front of my mom. Nope. Not a thing.

    As to my friends: Sometimes it comes up. Sometimes we talk about it. I try to respect my husband's wishes and not overshare. :) Usually we have better things to talk about, though.
     
  17. Stan

    Stan Resident Dumbass Donor

    Location:
    Colorado
    I'm sure my parents figured out how their grandkids were conceived; but we certainly never talked about it.

    I've been married forever, it's just not a topic that ever comes up with friends.
     
  18. the_jazz

    the_jazz Accused old lady puncher

    Traditionally I usually only discuss these things with my current sexual partner. But that's me, and it's well known that I've got a metaphorical stick jammed up my equally metaphorical ass.
     

  19. No kidding.

    Me: Hey Joe, got laid last night.
    Joe: Really, who?
    Me: My wife.
    Joe: How was it?
    Me: The usual.
    from there the conversation kind of sputters out....

    Not really much to talk about, is there?
     
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  20. Plan9

    Plan9 Standing in the Door Donor

    Location:
    This Island Earth
    It's good to know that nobody here on TFP sits down at a restaurant with their friends and goes, "Mother of God, cleaning anal beads sure is a hassle!"

    You're all fuckin' horn dog liars.
     
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