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How to Compliment Women

Discussion in 'Tilted Life and Sexuality' started by genuinemommy, Sep 8, 2018.

  1. genuinemommy

    genuinemommy Moderator Staff Member

    Do you know how to compliment women, without making them feel awkward?
    Most men don't. So they don't compliment them. And that isn't necessarily something you want.

    Do you like being complimented over something that you have absolutely no control over? I sure don't. Don't compliment my eyes. I don't have control over that. It's genetic. Don't compliment my weight - if I lost weight recently, it's not because I wanted to.

    No, I want to be complimented on things that I can control.
    Did I do something fun with my makeup? Oh, mention that.
    Did I choose some really fun, funky shoes to wear today? Yes, you can compliment that.
    Do you like my glasses frames? My haircut? My choice in sparkly Chewbacca t-shirts paired with nebula leggings? Yeah, compliment the heck out of that outfit.

    Do you see the trend?

    Women - share the best compliments that you have received. Share some really awkward, uncomfortable compliments that you have observed or received.

    Women - share what compliments were actually really incredibly creepy.
     
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  2. ralphie250

    ralphie250 Fully Erect Donor

    Location:
    Jonesboro ga
    I do my best to compliment my wife....with that said its normally something to the affect of "your ass looks great in those pants" and that's probably not the right way to do it.

    if I know she's getting a haircut I make sure to tell her how nice her hair looks.
    if were going out somewhere nice (which is not often) I make sure to tell her how nice she looks
    she don't wear make up, never has.... just her thing and I personally like it that way. but that's me

    with that being said any time that I compliment her, normally she just looks at me funny..... she doesn't really know how to take compliments
     
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  3. genuinemommy

    genuinemommy Moderator Staff Member

    @ralphie250 , I'm glad you find ways to compliment your wife that she likes. That is awesome.

    What about your daughter?
    Do you remark on how intelligent she is? How insightful her comments are? Do you tell her you like her creativity? Or perhaps you compliment her on the way she reasons with you intelligently.

    As you greet a friend who arrives at the door, do you compliment their hair pin? How about their shoes? See how that is different from complimenting them on their bodies? Commenting on accessories. Or skills they have developed.

    Finding things to compliment becomes a fun little game.

    When I meet someone new, I look for 3 things to compliment them on. And it helps me to remember their name, too. I choose 3 things because I can choose the most socially appropriate of those 3 to mention as I shake their hand. "Hi, George! Nice to meet you. I like your Lakers pin. Have you visited LA before? I love LA."

    It becomes a conversation starter.
     
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  4. Borla

    Borla Moderator Staff Member Donor

    Especially in the last few years I've worked hard to become better at giving and taking compliments. Usually when given a compliment I have thought "well, that's just what I was supposed to do (or how I was supposed to act, etc.)".

    Often times I've thought compliments about people but not conveyed them because I was worried about how they'd come across, or I would assume the person should already realize about themselves whatever positive thing I was going to say. I've worked hard to be more liberal with my compliments to people. For most of the women that I am around (other than my wife) I don't think I compliment them much differently than I would a male in the same situation. If they have awesome shoes on, or a nice fresh haircut, I'll say so. If they did something that was very thoughtful, smart, or funny, I try to say so. In general I don't say much about physical attributes unless specifically asked, or unless someone is talking about the effort they went to to accomplish something like losing weight, gaining muscle, or whatever. Sometimes in the online world pictures or other things are posted that are purposefully given looking for a compliment, so I guess that can occasionally be an exception. But in general I don't say a whole lot about that anymore anyway. I suppose if I were actively dating I'd have to adjust that, but I don't plan on being in that situation any time soon. ;)

    To me, the important thing is that people realize that your compliment is sincere and heartfelt. It's also important to know that the compliment is given freely, not with the expectation of anything being given in return.
     
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  5. ralphie250

    ralphie250 Fully Erect Donor

    Location:
    Jonesboro ga
    yes, I always compliment my daughter. I make sure she knows..... I even compliment her at a horse show
     
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  6. ralphie250

    ralphie250 Fully Erect Donor

    Location:
    Jonesboro ga

    for the win.....
     
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  7. MeltedMetalGlob

    MeltedMetalGlob Weirder Than Normal Donor

    Location:
    Who cares, really?
    As a rule, I never compliment women I don't know, and seldom, if ever, compliment women I do know.

    Mostly, I follow the old saying (somewhat paraphrased here):

    "It is better to remain silent and have women think you might be some weird creep than to open your mouth and leave no doubt."

    ;)
     
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  8. Chris Noyb

    Chris Noyb Get in, buckle up, hang on, & don't criticize.

    Location:
    Large City, TX
    I rarely compliment women, and use great caution when doing so. It is very difficult to predict what the reaction will be to the most innocent (in my mind) and neutral (as neutral as compliments can be) compliment.

    I've had situations where I felt apologizing was necessary. Sometimes because I was wrong, and sometimes because what I said wasn't necessarily wrong but was open to interpretation. I've been in situations where I wanted to, but didn't, tell women my thoughts ranging from "You're not that attractive, get over yourself " to "Shove vanity up your ass where it belongs." The latter is extremely harsh, but so was the unjustified intense verbal attack on me.
     
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  9. Herculite

    Herculite Slightly Tilted

    As a rule I don't complement women on their appearance unless I know them very well or its something they obviously spent a lot of time on to show off.

    I complement what someone does, or says.
     
  10. Chris Noyb

    Chris Noyb Get in, buckle up, hang on, & don't criticize.

    Location:
    Large City, TX
    Compliment.
     
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  11. Herculite

    Herculite Slightly Tilted

    Insult
     
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  12. michaelyoni64 New Member

    Location:
    AU
    In my work we have more women than men. One situation occurred recently to one of the younger girls that is "genetically blessed". One of our female colleages passed comment to her about how "Hot she was in yhat outfit and generally". I extended the comment/discussion to ... If I had said those exact words - you know where that would end up. So over to you. Men yes can be vulgar, we all agree. But to pass a complement now has to be met with a law book in hand so you don't say anything that will be misconstrued. Similar if male A passes a comment she would thank him. If male B said exactly the same (and she dislikes him) it would be seen as offensice.

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  13. butterscotch444 New Member

    Location:
    US
    Yes, for the most part I do! Years ago, most of( and nowadays!!) my friends are females so....All I do, is just " be myself, give a sincere, well- meaning compliment,and its often met with a very nice smile and ( sometimes a giggle!)- I just don't " get it", why Most guys can't be genuine and not act like egotists, just to give a nice compliment!

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  14. MeltedMetalGlob

    MeltedMetalGlob Weirder Than Normal Donor

    Location:
    Who cares, really?
    Found an interesting article not quite about complimenting women, but at least making an effort not to insult them- it's a piece about writing fictional stories:
    Five More Signs Your Story Is Sexist

    (If there's a better thread for this, it can be moved. I wasn't sure where else to look and this thread is fairly current right now.) :)
     
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  15. ralphie250

    ralphie250 Fully Erect Donor

    Location:
    Jonesboro ga
    just a thought......

    maybe the best way to compliment a woman is to listen to her when she talks, love her no matter what, and make sure she knows that she is loved and respected. and to help out when it is needed. don't let her feel like she does everything, and remember to communicate. listening and talking makes a woman feel involved and makes her know that you are paying her attention and not the tv. sometimes complimenting a woman is not about what you say, but more what you do

    in my personal opinion that's how you compliment a woman maybe its wrong and completely off in left field but who knows
     
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  16. redravin

    redravin Cynical Optimist

    Location:
    North
    So much of it depends on your relationship with the woman.
    There are women I can tell they look hot as fuck because they know I'm not coming on to them, they are close friends, and we have known each other for years.
    That group is tiny.
    I will compliment a coworker on her haircut (if I notice), a new outfit, or tattoo using polite, neutral terms.
    I will be more effusive with my daughters.
     
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  17. MeltedMetalGlob

    MeltedMetalGlob Weirder Than Normal Donor

    Location:
    Who cares, really?
    Probably another good reason to keep your filthy compliments to yourself:

    Why You Should Never Tell A Big Girl She Has A Pretty Face

    In a nutshell, Ashley Romano runs a fitness blog; she used to weigh 300 pounds, managed to get down to 140 before regaining some weight back. She's currently about 190, and honestly I think she looks fantastic. The funny part is that when I was looking over her articles, one of the things that stood out for me was her enchanting smile, but I'd never tell her that- seems like it would ruin her day.



    (Given how far she's come, she has every reason to smile, but that's none of my business.) ;)

    *sips cup of tea*