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How to Compliment Women

Discussion in 'Tilted Life and Sexuality' started by genuinemommy, Sep 8, 2018.

  1. genuinemommy

    genuinemommy Moderator Staff Member

    Do you know how to compliment women, without making them feel awkward?
    Most men don't. So they don't compliment them. And that isn't necessarily something you want.

    Do you like being complimented over something that you have absolutely no control over? I sure don't. Don't compliment my eyes. I don't have control over that. It's genetic. Don't compliment my weight - if I lost weight recently, it's not because I wanted to.

    No, I want to be complimented on things that I can control.
    Did I do something fun with my makeup? Oh, mention that.
    Did I choose some really fun, funky shoes to wear today? Yes, you can compliment that.
    Do you like my glasses frames? My haircut? My choice in sparkly Chewbacca t-shirts paired with nebula leggings? Yeah, compliment the heck out of that outfit.

    Do you see the trend?

    Women - share the best compliments that you have received. Share some really awkward, uncomfortable compliments that you have observed or received.

    Women - share what compliments were actually really incredibly creepy.
  2. ralphie250

    ralphie250 Fully Erect Donor

    I do my best to compliment my wife....with that said its normally something to the affect of "your ass looks great in those pants" and that's probably not the right way to do it.

    if I know she's getting a haircut I make sure to tell her how nice her hair looks.
    if were going out somewhere nice (which is not often) I make sure to tell her how nice she looks
    she don't wear make up, never has.... just her thing and I personally like it that way. but that's me

    with that being said any time that I compliment her, normally she just looks at me funny..... she doesn't really know how to take compliments
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  3. genuinemommy

    genuinemommy Moderator Staff Member

    @ralphie250 , I'm glad you find ways to compliment your wife that she likes. That is awesome.

    What about your daughter?
    Do you remark on how intelligent she is? How insightful her comments are? Do you tell her you like her creativity? Or perhaps you compliment her on the way she reasons with you intelligently.

    As you greet a friend who arrives at the door, do you compliment their hair pin? How about their shoes? See how that is different from complimenting them on their bodies? Commenting on accessories. Or skills they have developed.

    Finding things to compliment becomes a fun little game.

    When I meet someone new, I look for 3 things to compliment them on. And it helps me to remember their name, too. I choose 3 things because I can choose the most socially appropriate of those 3 to mention as I shake their hand. "Hi, George! Nice to meet you. I like your Lakers pin. Have you visited LA before? I love LA."

    It becomes a conversation starter.
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  4. Borla

    Borla Moderator Staff Member Donor

    Especially in the last few years I've worked hard to become better at giving and taking compliments. Usually when given a compliment I have thought "well, that's just what I was supposed to do (or how I was supposed to act, etc.)".

    Often times I've thought compliments about people but not conveyed them because I was worried about how they'd come across, or I would assume the person should already realize about themselves whatever positive thing I was going to say. I've worked hard to be more liberal with my compliments to people. For most of the women that I am around (other than my wife) I don't think I compliment them much differently than I would a male in the same situation. If they have awesome shoes on, or a nice fresh haircut, I'll say so. If they did something that was very thoughtful, smart, or funny, I try to say so. In general I don't say much about physical attributes unless specifically asked, or unless someone is talking about the effort they went to to accomplish something like losing weight, gaining muscle, or whatever. Sometimes in the online world pictures or other things are posted that are purposefully given looking for a compliment, so I guess that can occasionally be an exception. But in general I don't say a whole lot about that anymore anyway. I suppose if I were actively dating I'd have to adjust that, but I don't plan on being in that situation any time soon. ;)

    To me, the important thing is that people realize that your compliment is sincere and heartfelt. It's also important to know that the compliment is given freely, not with the expectation of anything being given in return.
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  5. ralphie250

    ralphie250 Fully Erect Donor

    yes, I always compliment my daughter. I make sure she knows..... I even compliment her at a horse show
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  6. ralphie250

    ralphie250 Fully Erect Donor

    for the win.....
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  7. MeltedMetalGlob

    MeltedMetalGlob Weirder Than Normal Donor

    Who cares, really?
    As a rule, I never compliment women I don't know, and seldom, if ever, compliment women I do know.

    Mostly, I follow the old saying (somewhat paraphrased here):

    "It is better to remain silent and have women think you might be some weird creep than to open your mouth and leave no doubt."

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  8. Chris Noyb

    Chris Noyb Get in, buckle up, hang on, & don't criticize.

    Large City, TX
    I rarely compliment women, and use great caution when doing so. It is very difficult to predict what the reaction will be to the most innocent (in my mind) and neutral (as neutral as compliments can be) compliment.

    I've had situations where I felt apologizing was necessary. Sometimes because I was wrong, and sometimes because what I said wasn't necessarily wrong but was open to interpretation. I've been in situations where I wanted to, but didn't, tell women my thoughts ranging from "You're not that attractive, get over yourself " to "Shove vanity up your ass where it belongs." The latter is extremely harsh, but so was the unjustified intense verbal attack on me.
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