I female ejaculated, and i'm embarrassed every time it happens. Help?

Has anyone ever felt like this? if so how did you over come it?

my girlfriend and I had been having sex for a few months now, and I have been sexually active for a few years now. All of a sudden one day I just ejaculated. She didn't seem to mind to much, but I was super embarrassed.

The next few times we had sex I would get so scared if doing it that whenever I felt close to orgasm, I would have her stop. I came one without squirting and thinking it was done and over with it happened again. Again I was embarrassed and we stopped.

I know it's not pee, and if I was the one that caused someone to squirt I'd be pretty damn proud of it. I don't understand why I get so embarrassed.


Do you have any tips for making sex better when it does happen? I've read of couples keeping towels by the bed, etc. How can I have that conversation with my girlfriend? We are usually pretty open, but I am seriously super embarrassed about this. ha. she doesn't seem to have a problem with it, but I don't exactly how she feels like it.

 

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It took me a moment to realize that you were a female. I had a complete answer ready assuming you were a male until I looked at your avatar sign.

If it helps, every time I orgasm I release a bit of urine. Then again, I'm 58 years old and don't have the bladder I once did. I have heard of women ejaculating a non urine substance and understand that it's not at all uncommon.

I definitely wouldn't be embarrassed by it. Why should you be embarrassed over something that naturally occurs in some women? Maybe you can lay a towel or a sheet over the bed before you begin so you don't have to worry about clean up. Then......just enjoy yourself. Believe me, worrying about what you're apt to do during orgasm takes the pleasure out of it. Let it go!

 

Hi. I'm male.

I want to chime in to say 100% Please, please you don't need to feel embarassed.

towels yes. Makes sense.

She doesn't seem to have a problem with it .. OK .. just double check with her, and I'm sure she'll confirm what it seems .. ie she doesn't have a problem with it.

NOT trying to stop it from happening means you get to be more into it all with her .. and thereby closer with her. Check that with her, too.

And you know you'd be pretty damn proud if you caused HER to squirt.

I reckon I'm not telling you anything you don't already know, so I'm wanting to be someone from the 'outside' joining forces with your 'inside' to press for the conclusion that It Is OK .. in fact it is totally lovely, and you know it.

Believe me, I'm not underestimating that you're seriously super embarrassed about this. Other new friends are going to join this thread to support you. I want to be one of those drops in your ocean with intent that you may embrace and fully enjoy being this, at present, new way. Uncomfortable .. new ... but, hopefuly, after a few more times, less new and becoming, therefore less uncomfortable ... less embarrassing. Still super. still serious. But less embarrassing.

Best wishes, Welcome to the forum, and take care

 

Nothing to be embarrassed about! The chick squirt is hella hot! Anyone with a lick of sense (and the sense to lick) knows that.

Keep a towel by the bed. And let go. Let it happen, and just enjoy it.

 

I agree with everyone so far. Nothing to be embarrassed about. It's a natural thing. Hell, id be proud of myself if i could get my wife to "squirt" so to speak. Just keep some towels around and have fun.

Ps... welcome to the forum

 

We may not be therapists, but this community is founded on respect for one another's worldviews. So, you seem to have come to the right place. I've heard that bulding up to an orgasm of this type and magnitude can actually feel like having to urinate, so there may be a bit of an issue, whether conscious or unconscious. I'm going to agree with everyone so far. Getting a female partner to ejaculate is the holy grail for so many lovers. Be proud that you are such a rare and sought-after jewel. Be proud that you can give your girlfriend the pleasure of knowing that she can do this to you and for you.

I hope you'll soon make your peace with it. And I hope you find a place to belong in this community. Be welcome.

 

Thanks guys. You are definitely helping me come to better terms with this, and feel more comfortable about i!

 

I had a girlfriend who was a squirter back in High School. Thankfully, I was mature enough and knew it wasn't urine but a fluid pretty much the same thing as when a girl gets wet (just gets forced out with pressure). She, like you, was super embarrassed the first time and never wanted me to go down on her, or would stop in the middle of penetration as she felt it build up. After some coaxing I helped her realize how sexy it was, as I knew there was 0 chance she was faking it, and how happy I was to make her cum.

You got a gift, now let your girlfriend enjoy the fruits of her labors

 

Okay. There's so many points to address with this.

I squirt. I love squirting. The guys I sleep with love it when I squirt and the instant I tell any partner that they can get me to squirt with one easy step, they basically turn into panting dogs and immediately go into it and just think it's the best thing on the planet. My last three rounds, four different partners (yay for threesomes), it was squirt-city. With one, I drenched both myself and him. Legs, stomach, chest, face, arms. Everything. On both of us.

I realize that'll read weird. So, for the rest of you: I squirt when my crotch is brutally spanked. So it gets everywhere because the outflow and the incoming hand cause liberal distribution.

Anyhow.

It's never not thrillingly received.

So...

A. As time passes and you gain more experience, you'll get more comfortable with squirting. Unless some prudish dickhead gives you a complex about it.

B. Waterproof mattress covers are a godsend. Little more expensive, but worth saving your mattress. Towels are good as well, if you have excessive ejaculation like myself. Always have a clean set of sheets available.

C. Squirting happens because your PC muscle is clenching down on... I don't remember where the fluid is stored. Whatever. Your PC muscle clenches down when you're enjoying yourself immensely. I squirt, thus far, in four different ways (crotch spanking as mentioned, ass spanking, incredible vibration, and g-spot stimulation). I know girls that squirt if they're slapped, verbally degraded, having regular sex, hit with a certain object... a part of it is mental stimulation, not just physical.

So be okay with yourself. Your squirting isn't going to go away. You'll make sex awkward for both yourself and your partner if you're not okay with something your body (and the bodies of most women-- if they've taken the time to explore themselves) does.

 

^^^^ Wow. That was both educational and hot.

 

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A very educational thread I must say. Both about the topic and Poetry. Thanks for all the great information.

 

Squirting is like a little gift that says you're doing this right. Unlike an orgasm, squirting can't be faked, can it?

 

I squirted for the first time about 2 weeks ago it's diffrent that's for sure. I think there is nothing wrong with it and it is SUPER HOT! We're swingers so I'm with diffrent people all the time the guy that did that for me I'd like for him to do it again he has magic hands. Well that's what I told his wife today. Lol

 

There is nothing wrong with that ,my ex use to soak the sheets but I never seen her squirt,I figure I was doing something wrong but thats ok the sex was always hot and wet

 

Poetry WOW Ill have to try that next time


I think you shouldn't be ashamed of your own sexuality and what your body does. Remember everybody's different.

 

Off topic but I'm curious. What is the difference between crotch spanking and brutal crotch spanking. Sort of a delicate area down there. Are you talking brutally with a hand or a whip or brutal as in a blunt object wielded with force? How much force? Does it leave marks or bruising afterwards?