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Kink test O.o

Discussion in 'Tilted Life and Sexuality' started by Wildmermaid, Sep 29, 2017.

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  1. ralphie250

    ralphie250 Fully Erect Donor

    Location:
    Jonesboro ga
    I assume it's nice to be tied up once and a while or tie someone up

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  2. snowy

    snowy so kawaii Staff Member Donor

    == Results from bdsmtest.org ==
    99% Rope bunny
    76% Voyeur
    69% Submissive
    65% Switch
    60% Masochist
    60% Non-monogamist
    49% Brat
    48% Rigger
    48% Experimentalist
    47% Vanilla
    46% Exhibitionist
    46% Dominant
    42% Daddy/Mommy
    36% Slave
    33% Primal (Prey)
    20% Primal (Hunter)
    13% Pet
    7% Master/Mistress
    6% Degradee
    4% Sadist
    1% Degrader
    1% Owner
    1% Ageplayer
    0% Boy/Girl
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    Really, I just want to be tied up and spanked.
     
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  3. snowy

    snowy so kawaii Staff Member Donor

    *whimper*
     
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  4. snowy

    snowy so kawaii Staff Member Donor

    I think we have a couple of volunteers around here
     
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  5. redravin

    redravin Cynical Optimist Donor

    Location:
    North

    The trick is to have the gear ready to go at a moments notice.
    Hook it to the bed posts and tuck it under the bed.
    Include the rigging in the sex play so it isn't a chore.
    Use leather cuffs instead of ropes if you have to.
    Have her help, there is self rigging that can be done to speed up the process.
    I know that it is complicated if one person is vanilla and the other has a kink that needs to be scratched to get off but then compromises need to be made or neither of you will be satisfied.
     
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  6. Lordeden

    Lordeden Part of the Problem

    Location:
    Redneckhell, NC
    It wasn't really a time thing, we had ropes ready on the bedposts. It was a control thing. I didn't like a tied up dead fish or a tied up "victim". Sex is a back and forth thing, not a control thing in my brain. Plus it wasn't just rope play, that was just the beginning. It was slapping, punching, choking and other forms of "punishment". I *DO NOT* enjoy that. Striking someone I love (excluded is light spanking and light scratching) in the face while my dick is in them, is not my idea of a good time. Screaming "CHOKE ME CHOKE ME SLAP ME" during sex is not a turn on for me.

    In the end we just were not compatible in the bedroom. I found out later when she let my two roommates double team her after we broke up, she asked to be tied down, "raped" then started blood play in the middle of the second session. That isn't my cup of tea.

    I will gladly indulge in my partners kinks, but there is a line I'm not comfortable with. My kinks are very "solo", so it's hard for my partner to indulge in mine. Voyeurism is a hard kink to share unless they share it with you. That and one other kink I have is all I have past Vanilla stuff.

    I couldn't be tied up. I tried it once and the minute I couldn't move, I had a panic attack. Panic attacks make my penis withdrawal from the world.

    If you are into control or edging, rope play is great. You can control your partner's orgasms and you can have your way with them (with safety words and lines drawn BEFORE being tied down). I know a few people that love edging and love when their partner controls their orgasms. I don't think it's weird, it's just something I don't want to do myself.
     
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  7. Wildmermaid

    Wildmermaid Very Tilted

    Location:
    Pacific Northwest
    That sounds truly terrifying! :confused: *shiver* I had a relationship for quite sometime where I was thrust into Domme role, and while there were aspects i LOVED overall I hated degradation play and his needs were just in no compatible with mine.
     
  8. CinnamonGirl

    CinnamonGirl The Cheat is GROUNDED! Donor



    So, right. I mean to elaborate on this a bit, but got distracted. It's really pretty much as expected, though I think if I'd taken the same test in my 20s, certain scores would've been way higher. Some of the questions I had a bit of trouble with, because I very much separate my sex life from my outside-the-bedroom life. Like, yes, I like a bit of pain and a bit of degradation when your dick is inside me, but try that OUTSIDE the bedroom, and it's not going to go over well AT ALL.

    The fact that "switch" is the highest is not surprising. I prefer being submissive in bed, but I can definitely take charge as the situation demands (I dated a guy who was surprised when I occasionally got more aggressive. Looking back, even though he wasn't really part of the BDSM scene, I think he wanted someone that was straight-up submissive all the time. That didn't really work for me.)

    Voyeur/exhibition, not so much anymore. I think I've talked about Douchey McDoucheface being VERY into exhibition, which sorta killed it for me. We had sex in public a LOT, but the last time was in the middle of a park in broad daylight....several cars passed by, and I was just like, "nope...done with this." Also, public hottub sex just left me feeling dirty...and not in the good way.

    Ah, now, rope bunny. I kinda love that term, to be honest. Another "formerly dated" story, there was a guy who was really into rope play, but we weren't together long enough to explore that together. He had a few books (illustrated!) that I was fascinated with, but we both agreed that a certain level of trust needed to be reached before we engaged in that kind of thing, and sadly (or not, depending on how you look at it), we never reached that point. Still, I delight in light bondage. NO HANDCUFFS (thank you, Gerald's Game), but scarves, or even just holding down my arms? Fuck yes.

    Okay, where was I? Submissive, yep, hit on that. Experimentalist, yes, I'm willing to try quite a lot if it gets my partner off, though I do draw the line when I get uncomfortable...but really, I'm game for quite a bit. Ageplay? I think I scored higher on this one because I've always preferred significantly older men.




    It's interesting, to me at least, to compare mine and Eden's scores, because, as he mentioned, his kinks are more solitary, and he is WAY more vanilla than me. I get off with a partner very easily, though, so we've made it work. Though I DO have a few ideas now, after reading both our scores... ;)
     
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  9. kramus

    kramus what I might see

    Not a surprise.
    If I were in better shape I might be more active, more “demanding” in a role-type way. I bet it would even be welcome. But I find I’m running out of gas due to my girth & low oxygen capacity. Which makes it frustrating to act pushy or callous, to play at using my partner as an anonymous means to satisfy desire or need.
    At least I’ve learned to accept that I’m worth it, that my desire can be expressed and be satisfied. That’s a big deal, don’t you know?

    86% Dominant
    61% Master/Mistress
    61% Voyeur
    60% Primal (Hunter)
    60% Degrader
    56% Vanilla
    56% Rigger
    48% Owner
    47% Ageplayer
    44% Exhibitionist
    43% Daddy/Mommy
    26% Experimentalist
    7% Boy/Girl
    5% Non-monogamist
    2% Sadist
    1% Brat
    1% Primal (Prey)
    0% Rope bunny
    0% Slave
    0% Degradee
    0% Submissive
    0% Masochist
    0% Pet
    0% Switch
     
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  10. redravin

    redravin Cynical Optimist Donor

    Location:
    North

    Fair enough, not really a fan of blood play myself.
    Sometimes two people can't work things out no matter how hard they try, it's just the way it goes.
    I've always wondered if the voyeur kink works if you do role play.
    You guys rent a hotel then you sneak in to watch her to take a shower and masturbate, something like that.
    Never tried it but always thought it would be interesting.
    Of course, my fantasy involves a lot of ropes, hairbrushes, and sustained orgasms after that but you know...
     
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  11. Lindy

    Lindy Moderator Staff Member

    Location:
    Nebraska
    I love vanilla sex.:D Basic oral, manual, and intercourse, never fails me.:cool: Most (though not all) of my partners have also been happy with basic B-flat sex, as long as they got plenty of it. I know that variety isn't necessarily about need, but for me, that lily has never needed gilding. Although, after taking this test I guess that I'm not as vanilla as I thought. Still, I hope that vanilla isn't considered too much of a pejorative.

    Also, some things like intercourse in multiple positions, oral sex to climax, doing it with the lights on, toys, masturbation. a succession of partners, that were considered "far out" fifty or seventy-five years ago have evolved (de-volved?) into being considered commonplace. Pretty much plain, ordinary, vanilla. Vanilla in 2017 can be much more flavorful and satisfying than vanilla of the 1940s was.

    I think it has to be true. You couldn't make some of this stuff up.:rolleyes:
     
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  12. Lindy

    Lindy Moderator Staff Member

    Location:
    Nebraska
    After going through the test again, and some reflection, I'm surprised that their isn't a category of "Oralist" where I'm sure I'd score at least 98%.:p I guess that oral isn't considered kinky any more.
     
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  13. rogue49

    rogue49 Tech Kung Fu Artist Staff Member Donor

    Location:
    Baltimore/DC
    As a followup to your previous post, I'm surprised that there isn't a category for "Raw Sex"
    As in "plain vanilla" sex...but done with vigorous and intense energy.
    Like you're an animal.
    Putting all your passion, zest and everything of all you are as a sweaty human...into pleasuring and giving/taking of another.

    Flopping from position to position, being contortionists, holding poses, savoring each other and every part while you're doing those...
    Not just using your genitals at that time, but bringing in your hands, fingers, feet, toes, mouth, tongue, teeth, muscles, etc and so on to enjoy every inch of your partner's body.
    And driving off the equal energy and passion of your partner.
    Each feeding off each other, increasing the intensity.

    As if you cannot get into each other physically than what biology and physics allows.
    The guy giving his all with his johnson into his partner.
    The woman doing the same with her pussy embracing it all
    The bodies intertwining each other
    DRIVING with everything.

    Now that's what I call "Raw Sex" :D:cool:

    And why isn't it a kink??
    Because I know a lot of people don't get to that point...cannot get to that point...nor is it their typical style or desire.
    And I just don't fuckin' get that.
    Because when I'm into it...I'm INTO it. (it may start slow and romantic...but it goes to that other place sooner or later)

    It's NOT "making love"...this is balls to the wall out right fucking and then some.

    And to be honest...it IS a kink
    Because it IS damn hard to find that out in the dating world...or even more so, a long-term SO...

    1. they don't write that shit on their foreheads. (or online bio)
    2. many times they aren't sane, responsible and considerate. (which is a strange relation...Because I'm a gentleman in the streets...and a freak in the sheets.. This is NOT common, nor of my experience or what I've heard)

    "Raw Sex" - a long-time kink (often frowned upon, sometimes attacked)
    What's a person to do?
    When they ENJOY letting fully go "in bed" but are calm, collected and respected outside of their sex situations.

    It's a shame.
    Often not admitted. (or others being envious or jealous or not knowing why they aren't "that way" NTTAWWT - is what it is, you are who you are, you like what you like...at that time...no right or wrong)

    It's a kink.
    And that's my true fetish.
    Big time. :)
     
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  14. Wildmermaid

    Wildmermaid Very Tilted

    Location:
    Pacific Northwest
    Just because something isn't a kink on that specific test doesn't make it any less of one. This is just a random test I found on the internet, and thought it would be a fair conversation starter, it is by no means complete. :)
     
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  15. ralphie250

    ralphie250 Fully Erect Donor

    Location:
    Jonesboro ga
    I just love sex...... kink or not, sex is fucking great. now I just need to get some
     
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  16. Lordeden

    Lordeden Part of the Problem

    Location:
    Redneckhell, NC
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  17. snowy

    snowy so kawaii Staff Member Donor

    My fantasies are very similar.

    This thread is making me hot.
     
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  18. ralphie250

    ralphie250 Fully Erect Donor

    Location:
    Jonesboro ga
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  19. MeltedMetalGlob

    MeltedMetalGlob Resident Loser Donor

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    Who cares, really?
    I wouldn't think so. :)


    Unless, of course, we're talking about me.
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    Then it's as pejorative as it gets! :D
     
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  20. Baraka_Guru

    Baraka_Guru Möderätor Staff Member Donor

    Location:
    Toronto
    == Results from bdsmtest.org ==
    100% Rigger
    94% Dominant
    89% Voyeur
    78% Experimentalist
    72% Non-monogamist
    59% Degrader
    59% Primal (Hunter)
    59% Switch
    56% Master/Mistress
    55% Submissive
    51% Exhibitionist
    47% Vanilla
    47% Ageplayer
    43% Slave
    43% Daddy/Mommy
    43% Rope bunny
    39% Boy/Girl
    37% Sadist
    23% Masochist
    22% Degradee
    14% Primal (Prey)
    10% Brat
    5% Owner
    1% Pet
    BDSM Test Results
     
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