I had previously written about how I was "maintaining" my wife eating as to not be enabling her bad choices. Which made her life better but she didn't see it. Anyways I got some advice and made some changes (not so much based on advice here but about changes between her and I). My neighbors are 20yrs younger than me and one is 25yrs older and we all started hanging out as a bunch. Grilling, talking, watching movies, doing family time. My wife didn't want to join in instead sit inside all day and sleep and eat and watch Netflix and I finally said "ok you do whatever" and let her eat and be the way she wants. Since June she has gained 42lbs, her doctor got all over her about her actions, i hardly spend time with her anymore. She has taken over our bedroom and its as if im no longer allowed to sleep in there. She msgs me constantly asking for things and I have told her no cause im either working or I was just at the store and im not going back. The sad part is.. My wife hates her life, she hates what she is, she complains all the time, she even complains about the doctors. Everyone else is a problem but her. I have tried and tried to make this work but she at this point just wants me for doing things otherwise im nothing and Ive had enough. So does that make me a asshole.. Yep.. Did trying for years and years to keep my wife functional and not enable her.. Yep.. So am I a Asshole.. yep.. And this week im filing for divorce.. The kids know their mom has issues and she wont take help and know im at wits end and i wont continue this anymore.