Discussion in 'Tilted Life and Sexuality' started by Xerxes, Oct 30, 2012.
to answer your original question yes, Ill check out the link
I've probably confessed a lot of my secrets/problems on this board before... mostly to do with my mental health.
When I was younger I always tended to think of mental illness in a binary way: the mad and the sane. As I've got older I guess I've tended to see it as a bit more complicated than that. I know that I am not "normal" and that I probably will always have some problems with anxiety, controlling my temper, depression, interacting with people socially - but at the same time I can still live a "normal" life and the more you get to know people you get to know that everyone has their insecurities and issues.
That said, I still havent sought much professional help. After I became diabetic I stopped drinking and on the whole I think this helps with most things (no more panic attacks. or at least very rare, no more audio hallucinations (I guess there is a proper word for that), but on the other hand it does make it even harder for me to socialise as the only way I used to be able to do it was when I was drunk.
But it is weird, I can be in a business meeting with Directors, Company owners, and I am very confident and sometimes maybe a bit overbearing. If I am having a meal or drink with someone one to one I can be very open, very talkative, probably again I tend to dominate conversations and be over-bearing. And put me in a group with 6 people and I'll sit there on my phone and wont speak all night and everyone will think Im a stuck up twat. And I can see I am doing it and I can understand it makes no sense, and I can't stop myself.
This is a long winded way of saying my dark secret is I am a bit closer down the "mentally ill" line than most people. I get depressed easily, I act very impulsively (buying things I dont need, acting irrationally, losing my temper when I feel like I am being disrespected) and I suffer from irrational (and rational) anxiety.
exactly , when the bride says " I DO " in her mind she's says " That'll be the last head job I will have to give. and Oh My, my vagina just kicked into granny gear."
That's so sad, and that will never be me.
Marriage is pretty much like a game show.
Some people win a bit.
Some people win BIG.
The rest of us lose.
I've never foooled around on my wife, or even when we were dating seriously. With that said, any person (this can also apply to guys) who uses hot sex to "hook" a spouse/partner/LTSO and then cuts way back once they they have them hooked, shouldn't bitch if the other person starts fooling around. Obviously many factors can be involved; I'm referring to a inexcuseable slowing/stoppage of what was hot sex.
Flaming passion & lust will slow down over time, but should never be allowed to die.
I know that if I take after my parents, that's never gonna happen. They're still complete perverts.
Mom and Dad, ages 64 and 70, still "do it." As children, while we were never invited to come in and watch, they always closed the door, but never hid or tried to deceive us as to what was going on. None of us thought we were the result of immaculate conception. My bedroom was (still is) next to theirs and it was (still is) pretty easy to tell that they had (still have) a well developed appetite for sex. If you can, as adults, talk at all to your parents about sex, I guarantee it will be an interesting conversation.
My parents don't have genitalia. Nope.
My parents died and were subsequently reduced to ashes decades ago. So I guess they don't have genitalia, either.
I was told that the best way for a boy to get an inopportune erection to go away is to think of his parents having sex.
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Don't know about reduced to ashes, but I know mine were reduced to tears at times...
I've been in a 4 yr going on 5 yr relationship. In the beginning we tore into each other like starving animals on a meal. Now we still do the same things just not as often.. Women and men set the expectation in the discussion phase, if the friendship progressing then that expectation shouldn't be lowered. That would be dis-honest.
I am a Voyeur and I am pretty at it.
But, are you good at it?
Oh I am good at it
Good looking and good at looking. Nice combo.
my deepest secret is that I have an opioid addiction, and lets say its pretty bad
I'm not going to preach at you, and you don't have to give any details out that you don't want to. But please address it. If not for your own sake, for your daughter's. Talk to your doctor, or someone trained to help.
Too many things can go wrong, and I've seen it first hand.
yeah, lets just say that it just keeps getting worse and worse. I don't mind details. just ask away if you want
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