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What do you, or is consider premature ejaculation?

Discussion in 'Tilted Life and Sexuality' started by deportes, Aug 15, 2019.

  1. deportes New Member

    Trying to find out what TFP members consider premature ejaculation, who has suffered from it and how have they coped or learned to control it. I am asking for a friend. hahaha
  2. fflowley

    fflowley Don't just do something, stand there! Donor

    Math equations.
    3 digit multiplication and division in your head will change your focus away from the incredible pleasure happening down below.
    Or think of Margaret Thatcher naked on a cold day. It worked for Austin Powers.
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  3. MSD

    MSD Very Tilted Donor

    It's perfectly OK to ask for yourself. PE is ejaculation due to stimulus that happens sooner than it typically would given the same stimulation in other circumstances.

    To get right to the point of what you're avoiding asking, and assuming you're a man in a heterosexual relationship, a very common and well regarded resource is the book She Comes First, written by a man who experiences PE and describing how he's learned to overcome it and please women he's with.
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  4. Lindy

    Lindy Moderator Staff Member Donor

    Or, think of your parents having sex. Although that might result in losing the erection completely, rather than sustaining it.:eek:

    Seriously, though... ability to sustain an erection for a lengthy (heh, heh) time can vary all over the map. But if you can't do PIV intercourse without cuming for at least a few minutes... that's probably premature ejaculation.

    What to do about it? Let me put on my Dr. Lindy sex therapist cap::D

    Do you have a steady regular partner that you're comfortable with? Would she (I'm assuming she) be willing to help you with this? Can she handle, touch, enjoy, a cock and/or give oral without being squeamish? Is she comfortable with her own nakedness? With the lights on? At least dimly. Do you get erect easily? I've had a lot of partners including a few PE. I know for a fact that sex can be satisfying even without PIV intercourse.:)

    Have a couple glasses of wine.;) I don't mean get drunk... Lie down with each other in a nice warm room. Have some lube at hand. You're going to do something called "edging." Play some kissy-face and feely-bod. She can take your cock in hand, maybe with some lube if you don't make your own. If she's not too experienced talk to her about masturbation and show her what jacking-off looks like. If she's at all into you, she'll probably want to help.;) Tell her how good it feels and tell her when you're getting close to cuming. She needs to stop moving her hand then while you recover some control.:) If your cock starts to soften, don't panic. Your erection should come back with stimulation. Then she can start again.:) And stop again.;) Talk to each other. Learn to enjoy sex with each other, not just fucking.:rolleyes:

    This does work. In my LTR (long term relationship) I can keep my guy stiff as a board for an hour or more followed by a huge gusher. And he's fifty-two years old. But responds really well to manual stimulation and (moderately) dirty, sexy talk. We can edge, fuck for ten or fifteen minutes and then go back to the edging.:D

    Writing this has left me with a serious case of the damp panties.:oops: I'm seriously hot, so gonna call Sig in to, uh, proof read this with me, yeah.:p

    Tonight might even be an anal night.:cool:
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  5. fflowley

    fflowley Don't just do something, stand there! Donor

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  6. ralphie250

    ralphie250 Fully Erect Donor

    Jonesboro ga
    Omg........ Gonna try this......
    Thanks Dr. Lindy

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  7. Lindy

    Lindy Moderator Staff Member Donor

    It was nothin' but(t) great. Anal not usually my favorite cup of tea, but Thursday night I just wanted it.:D After some extended oral and manual cock work I lay face down, put a big pillow under my belly, hugged another one with my arms and just wiggled my little butt up in the air while he slid in and out with plenty of lube. Had at least a couple of Os without haveg to do much of any work.;) He said that I was uncharacteristically passive...
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  8. Chris Noyb

    Chris Noyb Get in, buckle up, hang on, & don't criticize. Donor

    Large City, TX
    Studies report that PIV intercourse lasts six to seven minutes on average.

    What I find interesting is the new(er) studies reaffirm the finding from studies done in the 1950s. Generally speaking, most of us guys haven't evolved into superstuds, LOL.
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  9. curiousbear

    curiousbear Terse & Bizarre

    This is on my bucket list. Certainly need to hire someone to make it possible though.