Boobs: What's the deal? (NSFW)

I don't think so. I've done it both ways, but it's probably easier with the woman on top. It also gives her more control - so, maybe it depends on whether you like relinquishing control or not?

Oh.. I'm not a lady

 

No testing necessary - if you're on top:
At best, something is not going to get proper attention.
At worse, the asshole failing to get it right it is going to get a painful surprise at his end.

Me on top, preferably, but the other way can be quite nice when I don't want to be in control.

 

69 from the bottom can be really hot. note I said: can be
it requires a certain amount of discipline, sensitivity and awareness to be on top
but women already know that. some men don't.


i have had my tits fondled during doggy sex, but it doesn't do much for me
i'd much rather have my hair pulled or my ass smacked

it's funny how one's sexual advice takes on the fortitude of a saltine cracker once they've admitted they won't perform oral sex on their partner.
one word comes to mind:
chump.

 

"Who are you, again?"

 

WOW! How can a man claim to love women and not love giving oral? Besides, it ain't "69" if you ain't giving as good as you get.

 

All this talk about oral and giving and not giving and the resulting introspection caused a bit of a revelation, to me, about me. I honestly think I'd be more upset if I had to stop giving oral than I were to stop receiving...

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Anyway, more back to the topic - Some odd pages back I posted an article showing how stimulating a woman's nipples makes the same part of her brain light up as stimulating the genitals. I'm wondering how some of you who see some cultures as not sexualizing breasts to any extent square that with the article? Do they ignore it/not notice/not care?

 

When I was breast feeding my kids, there was stimulation going on as well but there was no connection making it's way to my genitals. I can't quite describe it except to say that it was not sexual at all in nature. I think the sexual connection between the nipples and the genitals is real and physical but I also believe it is situational - I "expect" to feel it. My guess is, women in cultures where there is no so sexual expectation in the situation will not be able to or have any need to "make" the connection - that part of the brain won't be lighting up when her man places his hands or his mouth on her nipples. Like I said, my guess.

But I am sure of one thing -sex is going on in the brain as well as the "hot spots" - some would say, and I agree, that the brain is the #1 erogenous zone.

 

I once made a woman orgasm just by rubbing her nipples.

 

It seems reasonable that breast feeding be stimulating. It certainly would reinforce the motherhood instinct.

 

Well, if you're not willing to perform oral sex on a woman, you'd damn well better be good at something.

Your arms weren't protruding through two holes in a wall by any chance, were they?

Just kidding, Eddie.

 

Truth be told, I will give oral sex. But only if the woman showers first. I won't eat pussy that's been marinating in a pair of panties all day long.

 

this discussion is a real downer.

 

Breastfeeding and breast playing both get the body to releasing Oxytocin, a hormone that comes into play during labor and orgasm. Breastfeeding helps the uterus get "back into shape" because of Oxytocin. Because I was expecting twins, not progressing in labor at my 40th week and had flat nipples, I was actually advised by my doctor to play with my nipples several times a day to get the Oxytocin flowing. Didn't really work but sure felt good.

 

My crude meter just topped out.

Sorry, ngdawg, not because of your comment.

Funny, playing with my own nipples doesn't do much for me unless I'm engaged somewhere "else" as well and fantasizing like crazy. If it's not related to sex, I might as well be playing with my own knuckles.

 

From the early days, I intuited that female connection you mentioned, and was informed by my partner back then that the connection held true in her experience also. Therefore subsequent scientific confirmation was no surprise.

A trumpeting "DOH!" of chagrin at pleasure lost, was my reaction, however, as I discovered only many years later, that the same connection existed in my very own nipples.

I am guessing that lack of social attention to male nipples as erogenous zones had had me starting coding any sensation there as 'funny', rather than a gateway to desire. An almost pre-pubescent style of awareness where existing roadmaps only led to other places; Nurture had distracted my awareness of my nature; further nurture realigned it.

I am suggesting that cultures which do not sexualize breasts are able to literally not notice the dots or the connections which may be made. I'd apply similar thinking to understanding the up-until-relatively-recent ignorance of clitorises, G-spots and prostates in the history of western culture.

On my own doorstep, I have witnessed dichotomy thinking: bottoms OR boobs. Plan9, a corollary to your thread question could perhaps be 'How do people manage to NOT appreciate both?' Bottoms, for example, slipped under my radar until the song 'Shake that Booty' forced an 'upper butt-cheek' awareness on me, and instructional videos trained me to notice and critically appreciate qualities of displacement. Prior to that, I had labelled it ... coded it a 'pelvic thrust'. Booty was hiding in plain sight, upstaged by hyper-attention to qualities of displacement of the pubic bone. What can I say - the 1970's rock music scene was my primeval learning soup.

I reckon that some element of body-part appreciation is cultural and manipulable. On a personal note, when I'm at my most cynical, I sometimes wonder whether 'caring' for parts of people, or entire people and communities, can be modified, by increasingly powerful marketing and social change tools, so our triggers for appreciating - even our hard-wired biological ones and those of direct personal experience may become no more or less necessary than if presented with the presence or absence of a Nike Tick on someone's clothes.

 

I don't think so, Lindy. I would prefer, if I weren't doing 69 on the side, to otherwise be on top. I like to have full movement to carry out the task at hand.

 

But not as much of a downer as being the poor woman in his life, I'd imagine.

No oral, doggy style all the time and far more cocky than an Italian midget.

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As a part of Nike's legal team, I have been directed to inform you that the correct terminology is Nike® Swoosh® .

 

I'm still trying to figure out how someone does a 69 without permforming oral. Seems like an upside down blowjob to me, but maybe I'm just slow.

Obviously making a woman orgasm with only nipple stimulation says a hell of a lot more about her than it does him.

Oh, and Eddie, dear, I'm still waiting for that proof that men in cultures with topless women view boobs as sexual playthings. Or are you finally going to conceed that you just created your "fact" out of thin air?

 

It would be like standing before a beautiful smorgasbord, plate in hand, and turning away with an empty stomach.